Hey all im new to this forum but I have been reading into a little bit of this stuff for a wile and trying bits and peices but due to my career and hours I have little time.

So the story goes that I was seeing this girl for a wile that I think the world of, earlier this year I moved interstate and we struck up a very close "Friendship" but I always knew she had an interest before then, she had a LTR (First) at the time and was now apparent using me as an "Orbiter" best friend bullshit... but thats distance for you. A few months ago he dumped her for another girl and she has been distraught ever since, really radically changed her behaviour and now has a large ammount of Orbiters hanging around her facebook (Yes they are all desperate losers).

I came back and started seeing her and we really hit it off one night on the town where we danced and made out, she had been very standofish all night but came around eventually, so we saw each other several times and one day things got a little heated and she grabbed me... and after wards seen the ex and new girl in the mall then had a freak out? had a date set up for that saturday night and a few hours before I got the whole LJBF bullshit ( I went AFC after she grabbed me), so I replied and told her that I didn't want to be her friend and then we both freaked out and decided to meet the next day where I went into damage control and we spent four hours talking but her whole vibe had changed to being standofish again and reluctant but still willing to kiss me. I asked her out on a date the next sunday and she ended up blowing me of for her family and another orbiter she had been seeing a wile back, wile all this was going on a mutual friend informed me that she was seeing other guys and keeping her options open. I started to think and then it all made sense that she was stringing me along to be her text buddy so she could go check other things out and I flew into a rage and called her out on her bullshit of not seeing anyone else and got lied to again. I said some really nasty things to her which she probably didn't deserve but I know I hurt her a lot, now I have tried the freez out thing before for ten days a few months ago before I came back (We used to text constantly) so I know that works, question is there was no heated argument and name calling before hand, so will it work again.

About a week after the fight I went into damage control and appologised for what I said, and she said it was ok (Low self esteem, been picked on alot as a kid and used to be a suck up which I liked, but is getting a huge ego boost out of these orbiter knobs on facebook and has turned into a picker and chooser)

I said that we could be friends but couldn't be as close as we were before (Avoiding the whole bestfriend shit). And left it at that, so now it has been a week and I have not really missed her but I am 90% certain she will come back. She is a headache at the moment but I have known her before she went through this depression and know she is worth the effort...

Other issue is I am bound to run into her at a nightclub so Im guessing gaming other girls infront of her and keep up the freeze out?. But when she does come back I'm going to need to know what to do.

thanks guys,
regards. Matt.

I was once placed in a case which is highly similar to this.

You showed her jealousy and brought up too much questions to her.
I mean for god's sake you weren't even dating the girl, neither were you in a relationship.
You have to change immediately. Game other girls for a week and see if she initiates contact. Don't try to talk to her, just persist for a week and see what happens.

Thanks for the advice, should I be worried if it takes longer?. Already started doing the game/Facebook thing. Now if she does come back what's the go?

Thanks