Hi all. First post so go easy!

So I've been on OKC for the last month and have had a few dates with various girls. I'm not looking for anything in particular from it and am quite happy to have a bit of fun and see where things go.

Anyway, I've met this one girl in particular who seems to be on the same wavelength, is pretty cool and a hottie. First date was just drinks, stayed in one bar for a few hours, rapport was good so we bounced to a club where I got the k-close. Invited her back to mine but she told me, "not on the first date". Fair enough. 2nd date was drinks again and after a few hours we had an impromptu trip to the cinema which I'd usually avoid but it seemed to go well. Went back to a bar for another few hours, headed back to mine and f-closed. 3rd date she was planning on coming round to my place to cook dinner for me. She initially flaked on the morning of the date with the "I'm ill" excuse but I played it cool and before long she told me that she'd be fine and we could go ahead. I'm assuming that was a sh1t test. Anyway, she came round and we had good fun, plenty of kino, kissing, heavy petting, oral etc. Couldn't bang as she was on her period. All good so far.

During this entire time, she's been hugely keen on SPAM chat. She's usually the initiator from around late morning every single day. For me, I want to cut back on the amount of IM'ing to stop thngs from getting stale so yesterday I waited to see how long she'd take to initiate. Didn't get anything from her until about 5pm and thereafter I only got two messages from her all day (it's usually fairly constant when she's not at work) which seems like she's either playing hard ball or it's fizzling out a bit.

We're supposed to be hooking up this evening (haven't planned what we're doing yet) but for some reason I'm expecting a flake. Any ideas on how to re-ignite the flame, if you think it needs re-igniting, or ideas for a good next move?

It's also worth mentioning that there was a week between each of the dates. I'd have preferred to keep it slightly more frequent than that but due to our work schedules clashing it's not been possible. What do you guys think of timescales? Time to ramp it up a bit?

You only tried once? Next time, be a bit more persistent. Now, close her as soon as you can. "Come over and watch a movie with me." is all you need to do. No more bullshit texting back and forth. No more "dates." Not until you fuck the girl. She's going to start thinking you're a pussy and rationalize to herself why she SHOULD NOT fuck you. Strike while the iron is hot.

Don't heavy pet unless you're ready to have sex.

Hi Majikal,

I already fucked her on the 2nd date so I feel i escalated relatively quickly.

For tonight should I just go along the lines of getting her round to my place? Not bother with going out for drinks etc? Ask her to come round to hang out and then get down to it sharpish? I wouldn't be expecting any resistance based on our previous encounters.