She wants to talk (It's a Trap!)

been dating this high energy hb9 for about 4 months, I think things are going pretty well.
She initiates physical contact constantly, invites me to every party she goes, to her work (she's a bartender and is constantly hit on), she's very compliant with me, i get bj's without asking, she loves being around me - we spend about 5-7 days together (i know that's too much). I have maintained a pretty solid alpha frame (with some minor beta offensives over the months). Her hot friends have hit on me (and failed). I have never showed her any major emotional outbursts, she claims I'm too un-emotional.

However, she saw some pics of me and my X hanging out on facebook which stirred up painful memories and says her last bf cheated on her with his x and she doesn't trust me. She claims she doesn't want to get hurt again, and says this is just a "fling". Then suggested downgrading to friends with benefits, and wants to "talk" later. I told her I would spank her instead and then asked her to find my shirt I left at her condo.

This is the third time this has happened (always the same girl, funny she doesn't mind her friends hitting on me), the last 2 times I told her that she needs to grow up and stop acting like a child. eventually she apologized both times, and told me she "trusts" me now.

I like this girl, I think she's "the one" joking but she is more fun than any girl I've ever been with so far, i believe this is saveable as she truly does love being around me.

I could open up emotionally a bit giving her some comfort and trust, but I think that might be a bad idea
I ignore this, pretend it never happened
cut contact for a week or 2
pre-emptively break up or downgrade

still learning this stuff,
recovering beta

You're doing absolutely great so far, but in the end you'll have to open up a bit emotionally(step by step). Everything else was handled and done nicely, I see no other problem here.

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well if she wants to be friends with benefits go fuck her friends lol. Yeah at some point you gotta let your guard down a lil bit and show some emotion in order to have a relationship.

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Lol

This story is so frequent that is funny. Girls are all just alike

The only way to win is to be like "Okay cool. When you feel different just let me know"

She's just doing it to get a reaction out of you. SHe's still going to fuck you, and still hangout with you. Don't get so worked up over a tittle.

Chillax dude.. This happens all the time.

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U guys were right,

I ignored it, she apologized the next night without prompting. She did say she wants to give it a month and see if she is still *upset that I hung out with my X (while with some friends). I told her i'l give her a month to see if her behavior improves, then she spilled her fancy glass of white wine all over the restaurant while I embarrassed her a little. I got a light punch then She drove us to my house singing the entire way.

I got special SPAM all night, and dirty texts from her today at work.

with a girl like this the moment you open up and become emotionally available as you stated as an option, is the moment she will never give you a BJ again. She is a shit tester and insecure, keep her insecure.

So you are basically saying that this girl is incapable of a committed relationship...

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no

Well, I see no point in having a relationship with a girl that leaves me the moment I open up to her. I want a partner, not a doll I could just bang. That's what fuck buddies are for.

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stop making silly binary arguments, it's dumb

Isn't this a silly binary argument?

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