So I know this girl who I like, she's someone I could fall in love with -- she's a cool girl. Not off the bat, I'm NOT putting her on a pedastool, in the relationship Im the man she's the woman - period.

I ofte cat h myself thinking of her and would like to call her but I called her yesterday lol. In other words how often could I call her to keep the fire burning but yet not over stay my welcome. I want her to be excited when I call not "Ohh it's pink, whoopty do" Also how long should I stay on the phone with her. I could honestly talk with her for hours.

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Your already fucked, and your blowing smoke up your own ass. Who gives a shit how long, when is the right time.

Even if you won’t admit it, SHE likely knows that you see far too much potential in her and are not seeing her in reality, because if you did, you’d have hit NEXT. And we all know you not going to do THAT. The more you keep obsessing, giving, morphing, accommodating, believing, hoping and even chasing them for attention, affection, love, and validation, is the more you pump them up and inflate their ego.

You are already boosting her and exaggerating her special-ness because you want her to reflect the effort back to you.
The fuck you say!!!

Let me say this once MORE: SHE is just not that special.

Let me say this shit one more time: She is not that special. They are just not that special. Nobody is. There is not one girl on this earth that justifies you disrespecting yourself for their attention. Not one.

Find your balls (their just below your belly), find that manly backbone you were born with, slap yourself in the face with pride and say “She's just not that special”.

Here is the thought process you need to adopt, before you make that next call, before you send that next text message.

I WOULD LIKE TO FUCK THIS GIRL! BUT, I DON'T NEED TO FUCK THIS ONE PARTICULAR GIRL! [/size]

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Heywood, haven't heard from you in a while, though your point of view is refreshing and empowering as well as helpful -- I don't think it's valid in this particular situation. You never asked me what type of relationship I'm personally looking for; what if I just am interested in a serious relationship at the moment. In contrast to, just being with lots of girls.

Also, you never asked what I've told this girl, I never boost her ego, or over do compliments on her or worship her -- but yet I let her know she's appreciated. Like I said, she really likes me and calls me and thinks about me a lot, I just never came to the point in a relationship (yet) where calling her just to talk was an issue. I'm not sure if I should keep contact cold - or just call her for a bit to talk and hang up. I'm doing this so I can learn and become better at game. I actually told her, "I hv lots of woman in my life and I don't apologize for it. But I am looking for just one relationship, and it'll take someone special to change that." She was cool with it, and it came across as a DHV rather than a DLV.

So my initial question is what in asking.

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Good job.

No, I didn't ask what kind of relationship you were seeking.

My point was generalized, as much as it was for you as well.

When ever I see a post that has "There is this ONE girl." It raises doubt in my mind. With those simple words the power shift has already begun.

I mean it's fine to have a monogamous relationship, I have no problem with that.

But check out how many posts start this way, go ahead search the forum.

The idea (my opinion), that the reason we are here, is to become better with women.

That will never happen (not singling you out here ) if you come with the assumption that you will finally be able to snag "that one special girl."

Maybe that will happen, but it's sort of like going into, Yale asking for you diploma, and telling them you'll do the learning crap later.

Your post just flagged my thoughts on that.

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I'm not obsessing over her thanks to the advice you gave me, a while ago -- didn't forget that.
I've just come to the point where I'm trying to balance relationships -- so (this question is for everyone) how often should I call or text a girl?

I know the rule is: text what purpose, so there's two purposes. 1) To arrange a meeting. 2) just to talk. I'm familar with the first but not the second.

I already have arranged the date but from the time to point A to point B I don't want the attraction to go cold. (This is for girls I've already seen before.)

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