Note* I posted this in the pua lounge but they told me it belongs in the General questions section, so here you go...


I find myself doing such beta make things, I haven't become full Alpha yet. Maybe it cause I feel I'm an Alpha with woman but not in my personal life.

Here's some things I noticed I do, tell me if their bad:
* I overly explain myself and my personality. E.g. "I'm so and so kind of person"
* I sometimes let her lead and give me directions and take control (even while being intimate).
* I open up to easy. E.g. I told her how my dad was never there for me and I had to teach myself how to be a man. Or that no one showed me Love but yet there's so much love in me to give.
* I give long explanations
* I use Pre-selection too much. **IMPORTANT** What happens is: I bring up other girls and they end up bring up other guys and it puts them in this mood of wanting that other guy. What would I do here?
* I make myself to available or needy
* I don't speak to her in a Alpha way, I pause a lot, thinking what to say.
* I give her the power in the relationship by saying I like her -- first.
** Important** I don't understand the basically rules of being alpha so in general conversation on what to say and how to handle things -- to demonstrate that I'm Alpha or attract her I fail.

That's all I could come up with. Please help me be one more alpha like some if you guys are. I so badly want what you guys have.

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Do the opposite of what you're doing.

You've got a lot of work ahead of you.

Flirt with a lot of girls. Once you're talking to like 6-8 or more, you'll start to act more alpha naturally. Follow that sort of vibe.

Thanks for your responses, I can under that if I'm around more girls I'll change naturally -- that's very insightful. However, what about these topics?

"* I use Pre-selection too much. **IMPORTANT** What happens is: I bring up other girls and they end up bring up other guys and it puts them in this mood of wanting that other guy. What would I do here?
* I make myself to available or needy
* I don't speak to her in a Alpha way, I pause a lot, thinking what to say.
* I give her the power in the relationship by saying I like her -- first.
** Important** I don't understand the basically rules of being alpha so in general conversation on what to say and how to handle things -- to demonstrate that I'm Alpha or attract her I fail."

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You're doing it right now, you're being a loser. You're making too big a deal of this shit when the reality is you just shouldn't give a fuck, at least not to any large extent. You don't know yourself, I highly doubt you're a qualified psychologist or you don't suffer from self-bias. Chances are you've got yourself completely wrong, especially in the specifics.

Think of the general you, don't go any deeper, just the general you. What are you like in general. Turn off you brain once in a while and let "Alpha" be natural.

At first keep in mind the mannerisms of an Alpha(Be aloof, don't give a shit and treat women like they could be in your life one minute and out the next because you don't give a fuck).

Two main attributes of being Alpha: Stop giving a shit about women's attention and stand straight with your legs apart. If you approach follow the body posture of someone approaching(Feet pointed away as if you'll leave at any minute, smile slightly and speak clear and slowly).

http://www.seductionscience.com/2011/bo ... s-for-men/

You have made the first important step. You've recognized the problem and you've listed the problem.

Now write down a plan of action to resolve each of your issues.

Brantley, Game, thanks for your replies...

Brantley, I'm trying to figure out the answers it's very hard to change these habits and idiosyncrasies that I've adopted for so long. I don't know how to fix them.

*Also, I just got off the phone with a girl who I like and when I talk to her I become too emotional and odd -- I be one needy. Maybe I'm wrong, this is what happen. I took her out, we ate at a fancy restaurant, I payed 50$! We held hands that whole night, and we kissed and all that. A few days passed and she didn't call me all she did was msg me on FB and we set up a date.

I called her and said jokingly, You owe me, I gave you a good time last night, I want chocolate, roses and a card. She said, "your kidding right? How about a bra too lol" I said, I take a Double D" and she laughed. It was playful. But than I said, I'm disappointed in her (in a joking way) you didn't call me, see if I ate, text me -- don't worry about me I'll be fine." She laughed and all that. I guess... I know... I messed up guys. But I hv a serious issue with a longing for affection and it makes me needy I suppose. It hurt that she didn't send me a nice text or phone call. I hope I explained it right.

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From what you said you didn't do anything wrong. It's okay to be c/f as long as you're not serious about having her check up on you. It's playful, sexy and it keeps her interest just don't go overboard.

You've got that down, at least what you've said here. Your problem is inner game. You're probably needy because you're insecure, that's your problem. Address your inner game and forget the rest for now.

If you want to be less needy generally you have to change your entire opinion of women as a whole and not put them on a pedestal. You need to face up to the fact that you can let a woman slide by and not care. Think she would be the next best thing? So fucking what, there's millions more out there like her.

Be more confident, don't place women so highly and know that you can pick someone else up if it doesn't work out.

how to become real man.

1. take full responsebilty of yourself
2. no one likes needy and depressing people
3. 1/10000 people care about your emotion or problems... peoples already got their own problems to worry
4. get out of your comfort zone. there's no magic pill or MAGIC PICK UP ROUTINE.
5. realize what is "ALPHA MALE" and head toward your defination of "ALPHA MALE"

alpha male is not just some-one who learned

cocky and funny
good body language
sexual

real alpha male is caring, loving, protecting weak something like a KNIGHT... lol

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