I am real interested in this girl we go to the same university. I am an MBA and she is in her last semester of undergrad.

The past two days (Tuesday Thursday) that she saw me walked up hugged said she had to go but just wanted to say hi. I hadn't seen her in a while so I said we need to get together and catch up one time she said yeah.

So yesterday after she walked off to class I thought why didn't you ask her out so I sent her a Facebook message that said

Me:Hey I got some free time Sunday want to grab a cup of coffee and catch up?"
Her: "I am sorry I am going to see my family this weekend" (they life a few hours away)

I know asking someone out over Facebook is kind of a cowardly move but I was not thinking when I sent it. I am not shy about asking her out I mean if she was close I would have just done it to her face no problem but there are times that I don't think I just do. At That moment the only thing on my mind was ask her out so I did. I thought to myself u idiot should have waited till next time you see her.

She probably wasn't lieing I know she is not one to lie but idk and that still doesn't change my mess up

So I like he a great deal and even though I screwed up I am not ready to just move on yet but how should I proceed? I would ask he out face to face but since I already did (dispite it being a Facebook request) I would look needy if I ask her too soon.


Thanks

You should have done it in person - right then and there, yeah; but why beat yourself up?

There are worse things than doing it over FB.

On Mon or Tues hit her up in person -- ask if you can buy her a coffee and she can tell you about her wknd. She'll either:

1) Go with you. Win.
2) Flake out and suggest an alt-date/time. Also win (she's not blowing you off entirely)
3) Flake out on you without suggesting an alt-date/time -- then you'll know and can stop wasting your time

Yeah I will probably see he on Tuesday but I thought that would be a little early to ask her out again

Well it doesn't have to sound like a date... just be calm and cool. Start chatting and try to transition it into a coffee right then - seemingly unplanned.

Don't call it a date, don't make it a big deal.

Ok thanks I may do that anyone else have an opinion?

Do you think she'll give you the LJBF?

You didn't screw up. You just asked her out for coffee!!

Chill dude, stop smokin' the weed, you're waaay too paranoid about this. Just wait until you see her next week. Show some interest by asking about her family then ask her out on an instant date("Let's grab lunch.")

honestly idk I think she would like to go out with me (I mean she is the one that has come up to me the last two times we met) but we are in kind of a predicament here I think she is going to graduate in december and head back home and i am not sure if she would want to start a relationship. because she wouldn't know what to do when she graduates.

If she says no I know she would still want to be friends.

I have tried to stay true to the Brad Pitt rule with a few exception (this would be one). The rule is when a girl gives you an excuse like she has plans if brad pitt asked her to go out would she have canceled the plans so she could go out? In other words would she cancel her plans to go out with someone she really wanted to see. Some times extreme not really true but allot of times it is true and saves you the embarrassment of being repeatedly shot down and wasting your time.

yeah but i guess I have adopted the manly stereotype (I use to not be) type of guy and hate doing something that could be considered cowardly and can take it too seriously.

I just wanna throw my 2cents in here. I wouldn't say you did anything wrong. FB may not be the ideal way to ask a girl out especially when you had a chance to do it face to face, but we're all human who's to say that the thought of asking her out while you were talking her just didn't cross your mind? I was in the exactl same boat there was a girl at my boxing gym she actually brought it up that we should go out sometime, but we could never make it work. Then one night I knew she didn't have anything on the go I had the perfect chance and I froze. After I thought wtf I just missed out, but then I got an idea and texted her just said it completely slipped my mind asked her if she was up for going out that night. She said yes and we went out. It wasn't ideal when I had the chance to ask her face to face, but it all worked out. Anyway I'd just say be cool play it cool, but don't act needy good luck!

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