Not sure how to play this one... Been talking to this girl on and off for about 9 months now, 28 year old mom. I would classify us as FWB, she is friends with my roommate's FWB. She has been getting flakey recently, and I'm not sure how to handle it. I know she is still talking with her ex. She got back with him after talking to me for 3 months, then a couple months later they break up again and she comes crawling back. I don't plan on ever dating this girl because she has too much baggage, but I want to keep banging her.

The distance thing started a couple weeks ago. We all went to a concert, it was awesome and we had a great time. She was on her period so no sex that night, but she stayed over. The next day my roommate and I went to Boston to visit his cousin (girl, who I've wanted to get with for a long time). My FWB was told by her friend (my roommate's FWB) that I wanted to hook up with my roommate's cousin, so before she left the next morning she told me she hopes I get lucky in Boston. Nothing happened in Boston (maybe next time...), but FWB and I didn't really talk much. She texted me when I got back about tutoring her, I said I was busy but could maybe squeeze her in.

This weekend she told me she wanted to come with my roommate and I to this party we were invited to, but her co-workers invited her over. I told her to come out afterwards, and that I wasn't leaving to go to the party until later. She is texting up until I ask her if she is coming, then nothing. The next morning she texts me and tells me she didn't read the message until she got up that morning and asked how the party was. I ignored that and told her about another party at a bar we were going to that night. She asked me what time, I told her and she said she would meet us out there. So we go to my buddy's birthday at a bar, my FWB is texting her friend who is with me that she has to meet up with another friend who wants to introduce her to someone. So in the end she doesn't end up coming out that night either. I didn't text her while at the bar, and haven't texted her since. That was Saturday night. She just texted me, "Hi *petname*".

Now I don't care that she is still talking to her ex, nor do I care that she is meeting other people. If she can find someone who wants to date her, I'll be happy for her. I think she knows I don't want to date her, but I still want to fuck her. How do I play this so that can happen?

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Is this that same girl 96?

Is that her in your Avitar?

Do you 'like' this girl more than your letting on?

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Yes.
Yes. She has a nice body, my type, hence why I want to keep fucking her.
I don't think so... She can be fun to hang out with, but she can also be a bitch and very moody. Not something I look for in a potential girlfriend. I have no desire to meet her son, or her family, as harsh as that may sound.

She was supposed to move away last month, but decided to stay around here for another year. So knowing she will probably be moving next year makes it easier to keep talking to her. There is an end date.

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I don't have an ego, I just love how awesome I am.

Not harsh at all when at FWB status, at should be a rule. (excluding hard partying hot sisters.)

After reading your last post, and this one, it seems as though you contact is on par for FWB.

It seems to me the trouble lies with her, you are obviously not the only spoon in the bowl so to speak.

She has other options. She WANTS those other options.

She has Firebird, Camaro, Mustang. Be the better option. turbo that shit up. No fear of risk over losing her, so be fearless. Do the shit you have had doubts about. You will surprise yourself.

Remind her of your 'wildest' sexual encounter, bring back the memory.

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Bringing this back from the dead...

So we haven't hung out in a month or so, she keeps making plans and then flaking on them. I always figure she is going to flake so I make other plans, but she keeps contacting me afterwards. Is she just looking for attention?

Latest instance was last Friday, when we were supposed to go out for my roommate's birthday. She texted me earlier in the week asking what we were doing, and she said whatever it was that she was coming. Friday comes along, she texts me and said she was too hungover to come out. I ignored her, haven't talked to her since. She just texted me out of the blue and says she misses me. Is this just an attention whore?

She is supposed to come along on a wine tour just before Halloween, but there is another girl going that I want to hook up with. Her friend told her that she was trying to hook me up with this other girl, so I think there is some jealousy there.

I'm about ready to just tell her unless she wants to have sex, stop contacting me. But in the same sense, I don't want to sound like I'm mad about her flaking...

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