When I started "gaming", I tried to relate all techniques to things "normal" people (non-PUAs like my parents) have told me through my life. This way I learned what each technique is trying to accomplish. Try to go to a club with more mature people (40+) and watch how they interact. Compare their behavior with all techniques you have learned. They are probably not pickup experts, but they
do know a thing or two about social interaction and how to behave. What can you learn from them? At least how to
open without being rejected, and how to have a normal conversation. By being
normal in this sense, not trying to pick anyone up, not trying to impress and so on, you will automatically become more
smooth and do what PUAs call DHV (as long as you are confident enough to feel that you are
equal to the people you talk to).
Pickup techniques have a couple of goals in common - try to avoid stupid mistakes people normally do, to mimic the behavior of more socially skilled people, create sexual tension and some other things. Assuming you have basic social skills and can mingle around in a party (think birthday party to take pickup out of the picture), there are some things I recommend:
- Approach indirectly. Try to talk with "everyone else first" - people close to her, her friends (guys before girls) etc. Become accepted in the group, get social approval and try to charm people close to her.
- If you have to approach directly, make your opener slightly accusing. This will signal that you don't want anything from her, since people who are interested usually don't behave that way.
- Give everyone equal amounts of attention, and touch them (kino) to make them uncertain wether you are interested in them or not. If you succeed in making one girl interested, the others will follow easier due to their vanity and jealousy. Make everyone feel special and they might start competing. If you are lucky, you can create mass hysteria and you will be able to choose which girl you want to sleep with in the end.
- When you finally pay attention to the girl you are interested in, you need to isolate her. The reason is that seduction requires time and attention. You have to keep her attention for quite some time, so you need to remove all sources of distraction. This is where lock ins come in handy, in case you are standing in a bar - a good outer game trick.
And remember! Be positive and have fun!