Hi guys,

Unfortunately, it seems like everything I've done in the last few months (getting a girlfriend and some less serious relationships) didn't help much.

I still have a girl in my head. I went out with her, great feelings but I got mad when she acted like playing. Sent apologies the next day, no answer + we stayed in two different countries for months.

Now we're back 5 minutes walk from each other and this doesn't help me. Wondering if to reinitiate contact to propose to meet or try to forget. This last option seems unlikely, cause despite following all the usual suggestions about oneitis overcoming, I can't seem to be able to get over it.

Basically, if I stop acting, I feel like potentially wasting a big occasion (and, by the way, my mind is always there anyway).
But if I don't stop, the "pain" does not go away.

Any idea?

Hey luke

Wounds have to heal and they will take 10 times as long to heal if you keep opening them. I know its tough dude but you have to let this go. It is for your own good and you will realize in 3 months how silly you were being. Based on your thoughts and what you wrote, you guys can't be together.. it just won't work. You can know someone that you're emotionally attached to.

I know you're not going to listen because i've been in your shoes before, but if you wanna spare yourself the pain and not learn the hard way give her up man.

Just accept it man

Joey

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Best advice any PUA would give is to go out there and meet women...lots of women...and you'll find one's better than her.

Easier said than done, I know. We keep saying to ourselves we'll never find somebody like her.

For me, it took me a while to get over my former ex and girls I've really liked until I met one cooler than she was that became a distraction and pulled this oneitis out of my system.

Find a new replacement, and you'll forget about her.

But to whether initiate contact with her, go for it. What do you have to lose?

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Two opposite suggestion in a way. I think I'll try it though, I need a clear yes or no answer, otherwise I can't escape from this.

Here's an article I just published today on the basics, you probably know this stuff, but just in case...

http://www.joshsway.com/articles/view/o ... ndard-cure

I think for you the key is point #3 in my article which is that it takes time

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I think that in order to start the process, I first have to cancel uncertainty from the picture...

I appreciated your article anyway, thanks a lot.

No.

Oneitise sucks. Just plough through and distract yourself with other women. Have women you can text randomly for attention, have women you can meet up with and have dates with. Have it all and you'll get over it soon enough. When you're left alone and want or feel the need of attention you'll have someone to fill that need. If you just want to randomly message someone? Text your texting girl. If you want to hit up a movie and get some down time? Text your date girl. If you just want to fuck then get your DTF girl. All bases are covered.

Your one goal should be "Get rid of my oneitise for this girl." That means taking her out of your mind. Forget PU, you won't be able to do it until you begin to overcome your oneitise.

thanks. sadly, women are notoriously bad at giving you the closure you want. Hell, PEOPLE are bad at giving closure when it comes to these situations. Do not count on being able to get that.. as others have suggested, it's best to cease contact.

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Invited her out but she didn't answer. That's the kind of closure I (didn't) want.
Things can only start improving I guess.

And who said pick up is impossible in these situations was wrong. Exactly because I'm not too interested in anyone else, everything comes much easier than before.
This doesn't mean I'm excited about it. My mood is still poor. But my game last saturday was the best I've ever had!