One of my biggest sticking points is actually keeping the conversation alive and not coming off as boring. do you have any advice in this area?

do you have any advice in this area?

at what part of interaction do you have that?

I kinda have the same issue... usually after we talk about how are we, and we discuss several subtopics...I have trouble interacting with what she likes or thinking while talking is hard for me really..I analyze and think hard before saying things.

You need to look for conversational hook points in what she is talking about and also what you are talking about. Branch off from one topic to another topic. The topics really don't even have to be related as long as the stories are entertaining.

Just ask random.questions that provoke emotions. Eg. Would.you ever skydive? Swim with sharks, even stupid questions like would you date a guy with an enormous purple afro and big red nose? They laugh, you roll into a deal breaker convo and start to frame the interaction.

Anything random is good as long as you keep leading and have good energy?

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just use bits off info she gives you as launching points for new conversation. also? go out and talk to people, its quite easy, youll see so yourself if you stop asking about it and just do it

Exactly. I use the "what if" game all the time. That works well too.

you keep talking i think

If you have trouble with conversation try doing something like playing the cube game. Its a simple yet effective personality test. At first I thought it was stupid but I gave a try on one girl and after the first set of questions I had another come up and was like, do me please! Once I finished the second, conversation was just flowing at how accurate it was and then I had a third one give it a try. Essentially you gotta make it interesting by connecting the results to things. Here's a link to it, just give it a try on some girls you're friends with and see how it goes. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index ... 234AALqGx6

Obviousation. Saying the obvious to neutralize the awkwardness.

When the conversation staled...admit like, "So I guess one of us not a great conversationalist? You know how it is when you're talking and there is a blockage, we think we're the one bad conversationalist, but truth the other persons' thinking it as well."

"So what can we talk about now?"

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I agree that talking to women is the biggest problem guys have if they can only be naturally better at it half the work is solved.

Ask interesting, different and most importantly FUN questions and just listen. Listening is the greatest conversational asset when talking with women

One question I like is this:

"If you won one hundred million dollars and NEVER had to work again, what would you do?"

Also, try asking her questions like these:

"would you rather date a very confident and sexy man with no money, or an ugly and insecure man with 100 million dollars to his name?"

I like to know what the women, I speak with, want from their lives and this is how I do it. It is different, fun and we get to know each other which is the whole point of meeting women.

- Andreas

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