Okay, I need help ASAP. And this is pretty lengthy!

There is this girl (we'll call her Casie) that I've known for about three years. Either I added her on Facebook, or she added me. We would flirt back and forth for a few years over Facebook, but nothing serious.

Earlier this year, I started a new job and started seeing someone from the job (we'll call her Amanda). Turns out Casie also worked there. Casie would show HUGE signs of interest, asking why she has to force me to talk to her, calling me cute, asking to go out to lunch with me, etc. I was blowing her off because I was involved with Amanda. Over the course of the relationship with Amanda and I, Casie was always there, still showing signs of interest, but taking a back seat.

As things ended with Amanda and I, me and Casie had sex. It was okay the first time and I'm thinking stress (I over think a lot of things) led to performance anxiety. Due to this, Casie thought I was not attracted to her, which is FAR from the case (Casie is a 9 out of 10).

Now, Casie and I have been talking for about a month or so. She's showing IOI's, saying that she would prefer we hang out more before we make things official; basically, just getting to know each other more. We've had sex a couple more times, both better experiences than the previous.

But something happened Friday. She was giving me what I would call a "sh*t test," throwing all of these guys in my face that want to talk to her. Now, I'm not a jealous guy at all, and she is SMOKIN' HOT, so I expect nothing less than 5 guys per day putting in their bids. But the WAY she was talking about it.

"Every guy here wants to talk to me. I don't know if it's because their black guys or not. Nothing against them, but just not my type. Then some dude walked in the building. He was cute, but he left me his name and number. His name's Ryan. I can't go ANYWHERE without a guy trying to pick me up. Am I really THAT CUTE? WTF?"

Now, I'm totally open to the possibility of me reading into this wrong, but it seemed like she was sh*t testing me, seeing how I would respond. My response was, verbatim, "Most guys would try to pick up on anything with t*ts and a vagina. Lol." She agreed, but got pissed and ignored me for the rest of the day.

I expected her to be a LITTLE upset by the comment, as it was designed take her off that high horse she was riding on. Also, to not just simply conform and say "Yes, you are that cute, babe." Looking back on it, I could have WORDED that differently.

The next morning, she texted me asking when I would be able to help her with something I agreed to help her with. I gave her the day and time, then asked why she was pissed. She said "Because I get in moods like that." Later that night, I asked if she could come stay the night after she left her second job she's working. She said "I didn't bring anything" (makeup, clothes for work; she usually leaves my apartment and goes straight to her second job). I told her, "I do wanna see you, but if it's out of the way, it's no biggie." She then said she didn't have enough gas, she has to sleep and she's on her period. I replied, "Okay, but you just got off your period two weeks ago." She then said that it could be from the Plan B pill she took (after we had sex the second time). I asked if she was lying in a joking manner, then she was Gung Ho about showing me a picture, so I took her word for it. Lmao.

Here's where I'm thrown off, though:

About five days ago, before I made that comment, she mentioned that she's focused on her kids and securing her future, which is cool. She even posted statuses on Facebook saying she's not gonna settle down anytime soon, as she's focusing on her kids and making money. But she keeps showing IOI's, asking why I wouldn't come sit with her during lunch, I have 10 minutes left, etc.

I REALLY like this girl, but I'm not gonna stick around to be strung along and then discarded. But I know I can overthink things at times, and if things don't work out, I don't want it to be because I was being too prideful.

Any advice is appreciated!!!

Get a hard on around her and then ask her a small favor, something like: "Hey babe, can you lend me $100 bucks because (state a valid reason here)."

If she complies, give her a triangular gaze and the eye fuck. If she eye fucks you back and wets her lips, kiss her. It doesn't matter where you are, just go for the kiss close.

Cut off 80% of your sarging time from Facebook and devote more on face-to-face approaches so you'll get better at this.

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Lol. I wasn't talking to her on Facebook to try and pick her up. Lol. It was just flirting. Didn't have any intentions on picking her up. Lol.

It was when we saw each other in PERSON that we started to become interested.

Flirting = Sarging

Now go and sarge 10 new women every day face-to-face. Only use your Facebook once a week and keep your Facebook time under 2 hours each week.

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Drama.

Oneitis.

Start seeing other women immediately, or stop playing games and be genuine with this chick.

When she says she isn't ready to get serious, assume that means she sees you as someone she could get serious with. Call her on it if you also want to be serious. Maybe she just wants you to chase her, don't do it.

Stop worrying about her reactions and feelings, in other words stop trying to manipulate her.
Instead just have fun and let her feel however she wants to feel. You're not responsible for her feelings.

Focus more on being attractive than trying to attract.

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2. Show Don't Tell
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Here is an attempt to give you a more serious answer. When she told you that everyone is hitting on her, it was because she want you to try harder - like a warning "hey, I have many options here, and you can loose me anytime if you don't try harder". She want you to validate her. I don't know why she does this, and it can be that...

1. she is a power abuser and want you to become her little dog.
2. you don't validate her enough. Plain and simple.

Try to give her the validation she wants and look for the reaction. If she rewards you somehow (with sex, love or whatever), you can be quite sure that she is just hungry for love. If she on the other hand becomes more distant afterwards, or start abusing you, you should react in a similar manner - reject her. It is all a matter of balance. If this creates more drama than you can stand, dump her.

Hugge, very observant of you. Great job assessing the situation. I'd be careful about giving into her obvious shit test, and definitely recommend against acting only to get reaction. Cool to see other's viewpoints.
This is negative manipulation. She is manipulating you and you're manipulating her. Don't do it.

Only give her validation when you feel like it or she has done something to deserve it, not when she's trying to get it. Make it random and irregular.

Instead of acting to try and get a reaction, act in the way that is integral to your character. This is more attractive. If you're not sure what your character is, write down everything about the person you would most like to be, how would you act, carry yourself, speak, and most importantly feel? What would you say, and do if you were the person you want to be? Do it now. Be your best self.

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MiikusMaximus
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You will be far more likely to regret what you haven't done than what you have.
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Be the man you want to be while living the life you want to live.
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I only have three rules
1. Make It Fun
2. Show Don't Tell
3. Be Genuine