I don't think I ever have... at least not something I would define as a crush. I think a crush is when you find a girl that you like and you want to date her, but for some reason she's special and better than other girls. I've never been like that. If I see an attractive girl, I'm always into the way she looks. So am I weird? By my definition, have any of you ever had a crush? Or am I mixing up a guy with a crush for a guy with a hard on?

I know many people here will disagree but imo at the end of the day we are all human beings and human beings can and WILL fall in love. Im sure everybody had this kind of feeling before. Even if you know its not right or you try to protect yourself from falling in love if its happens it happens.

And you dont have a crush on somebody just because of the looks. Take me as an example. The girl i have a crush on is not a model looking girl AT ALL. I mean she has a very beautiful face but she is overweight has a wired figure... Its just about her character and the way she makes me feel (yeah i know its bad from pua point of few...).

Its very possible that you just havent met the "special one".

You should flush the word 'crush' down the toilet. It's feminine. Girls talk about crushes. Men shouldn't. If you want to attract feminine women, stay away from that concept like a plague.

Now, if a woman tries to win you over by outdoing other women in doing nice things for you, that's the only time that you should think about concepts like 'love' and 'commitment'. You'll never go wrong with a good woman.

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LOL at you guys talking about "crushes" and "the special one."

UNPLUG.

YOU ARE INDOCTRINATED.

You sound like women because you've been trained to think like them.

Go find some male role models, spend more time around dudes, and then let me know how much you hear about "crushes" and "the special one."

Actually the latter I can forgive, many many guys believe in the Soulmate Myth.

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I completely agree.

As far as crushes go, I've had a few, all before I got into PUA. But I'm probably not the best exemple since I have amazingly high standards and always went for the hottest girl in school with good grades and from a rich family. Yeah, waaaay out of the league of a middle class nerdy looking AFG... I had crushes with three girls like that on my teen years.

okay... so what do you think causes it and why do you feel that way?

This ^^^^^

Who says there has to be "one" person you have to spend the rest of your life with? I mean... is there a rule book somewhere that says what you should "feel?" Seriously, let go of all the things you are taught to feel and self generate your own feelings. This can be taken to other ways too... Like fear. Or anger. Really any feeling that you are TOLD to feel, stop, and think about why YOU should actually feel that way. Is that something you REALLY want to do with the rest of your life? Spend it with one woman. Because that's what everyone else tells you to do... Or do you want to spend it with multiple women. I'm not saying make a choice right away. I'm saying play it out and see what happens. There is no need to feel any type of attachment towards anyone.

I agree only in part. I think that firstly it must be pointed out a big difference: If you're having a crush in reality you're having a one-itis. If you've fallen in love with someone... well, that's different.

I was a guy who believed that loved didn't exist till a year ago, I thought that people claiming to be in love where just misunderstanding their true feelings (in fact I think this happens a lot). Life proved me wrong!

But in fact nobody said that you can love only one person. If it was like this the chances of falling in love would be very little (we are about 7 billions, therefore the probability of finding the "one" special person would be, more or less, of 0.00000001%).

So, summarizing my point of view:
1- If you are attracted to a girl just because of her body, you're having a hard on
2- If you're attracted to a girl but you don't have any kind of feelings connection, you're having a one-itis
3- If you are attracted to a girl and your feelings are deeply connected, well, that's a point out of ten that says you may have fallen in love.