Hey guys,

So been seeing this woman for a few months. We're just dating, she's nice. We talk nearly everyday do things together it -went- well.

But here is the thing. "She isn't ready for a relationship yet."

In universal terms, that usually means she is not wanting a relationship with me. But in some terms, if a 'girl' says she doesn't want a relationship she doesn't won't one.
But if a woman says that, she generally means she has a lot of issues currently and needs some space.

I understood this from day one and enjoyed seeing her, this chick is twenty three years old. She does have a lot on her plate and some life issues currently. I played the genuine kind of guy. Just splitting up from her boyfriend, its generally fair in a way to give her some space. So we dated.

And I messed up.

I fell for the schoolboy error and dated with her giving her space to enjoy the single tone of life. That was a big mistake, she flirted with other guys, teased and generally took a knife to my heart.
But its ok, in her eyes. She made it clear we were only dating. She wasn't ready for a relationship. I was filling in the blanks.

My question can this be salvaged? Yes I want it salvaged. I love a challenge.

I had a chat with her today, she already knows I have a rich history of 'sleep with them, leave them' single one night stands, but not a rich history of relationships. One that I was trying with her. I can bed a woman, that's easy. But a relationship? Christ that's hard.

So our chat ended with her not wanting to loose me as a friend and me replying with lets just keep distant for a while. I can't be a friend, I've become involved too much.
I told her she tugged on the heart strings and I need some space myself.

So my delightful! likeminded gurus of wisdom. This relationship has turned into a project for me. Can this be salvaged and what actions should I take to re-win that interest.

I'm thinking jealousy, make her aware of me but not allowed to touch. But i'd like some thoughts.

This isn't the typical, how to date a woman. How to sarge a woman. How to bed a woman. This one is how to utterly change her way of sight, perception and ignite her with sexual tension every time she sees me question.
Not mind control, but sex appeal. Spark her interest and force her to reconsider what she may have lost.

Thanks guys, K

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