I had a cute girl over last night,
the conversation was fine and flowing, but I noticed I'm not following any Pick-up model.
Simply, I spend too much time being a pussy and talking about feelings, life and goals. Its not attractive. I don't feel Alpha or dominant. I still got the girl, but I initiated the kiss not seductively but in the middle of a deep conversation. Even after making out, we still talked about life. I DONT WANT IT LIKE THIS.
I want to feel attractive and alpha, and be having an amazing time and have the girl feel that and therefore she wants me.

Help me become truly attractive. How can I start to be more alpha, funny and dominant?

Actually you should read the book "No more mr nice guy" because apparently you don't understand what "nice guy" means.

Talking about future plans is actually attractive because it shows you have something going for you and a direction in life which is one of the best qualities of a man in the eyes of a decent woman.

Talking about feelings is also attractive. If you are not being whiny but confidently expressing what you feel.

Initiating the kiss. Doesn't matter when and how. If it's random, even better. There is no perfect time for a kiss. Again this shows you have balls which is manly.

Forget being alpha. It doesn't really make sense at all. Unless you are in a group setting where you are competing with other males.

To me it seems you are doing fine

Haha, Thanks for the support.

My post is less of a complaint and more of a call for change. Rather then being attractive for a certain category of girls, id like to show more alpha-dominant traits. Such as being funny, ballsy, and risky. In my current model I never neg, Im too nice and easy for it. but, I want that to change and improve on being attractive to anyone I choose.

Amigo,

dont take it personal (lately most of my posts seem to start like this), but listen up:

You are like a kid with a mountain of food and a spoon on the table. And you are yelling to your mummies on a forum for somebody to stick the darned spoon in your mouth.

Nobody is ballsy. Nobody is risky. Being risky means shit. Being ballsy means shit. Everybody is ballsy and everybody is risky if you hear them talking. But how many actually have balls enough to act up on what they say? Balsy and risky are actions, moments, flings. You cannot be ballsy and sit in your sofy, you cannot be risky behind your computer. You do balsy and you do risky.

To change is just a matter of picking up the spoon and stick it in your mouth. Its that simple .

cheers and good luck!

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"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

LD,

No offence taken, but your telling me to just go out and be more, ok...
But my question is HOW?

I can go out a million times and still get the same results
Im here asking what can I do differently to be more ballsy,risky and funny.
if you got the answers, ive got the ambition and ill be a changed man

you want to become attractive, alpha, funny or dominant? those are different things. some of them have nothing to do with seduction.

hey mate,

look, it is not about 'be more', the key point is 'do more'.

you want balsy and risky? approach a girl, any girl you find mighty attractive and just walk up to hear. Tell her you dont just think she looks good, tell her you find her mighty atractive, just off that bat. talk a bit, not long and tell her out of the blue you want to have sex with her. Dont push her, just tell her what you want to do. this is doable in bars and clubs, not daygame. Dont touch her, dont be aggressivly sexual, just look her dead in the eye and tell her. That is ballsy and risky. That is Mode one btw, caveman style. I have done it for some time and i really liked it.

Be honest about what it reallly is you want. Skip the fancy stuff. Dont push. never push, just state your desires. She will either want to or not. Dont push. if she doesnt run but talks instead, dont push, let things re-escalate as this is a 90% sure fuck.

Ballsy and risky is not care about the outcome at a certain moment. it is exposing yourself and not care about it because you can take it. It is making you vulnerable but still continue, even though she might reject you like you have never been rejected before.

A bit of a warning though: dont push and dont get sexual aggressive until she is followign you. Although balsy and risky is mighty attractive, use you COMMON sense, so you dont end up with mighty trouble.

cheers and good luck!

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"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you

If you get girls being like this, why would you want to be something diferent ? But that's not my problem, if you want to change, well...

If you want to be an alpha, it's because you still didn't quit being beta.

You know what I mean ? If you want to be more funny and dominant, just be funny and dominant.

Best of luck !

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I wouldn't say you are a pussy, far from it!

Vulnerability is strength in my book!

If you are this open with her and telling her about your dreams and ambitions, you are more courageous and strong than most men who just puts on a facade of "coolness".

What I can tell from this post, you are basically saying that you want to be an asshole; dominant and shit! Well, I gotta tell ya: if you are open and honest about yourself and connecting with women in the way you do... You are very much alpha to me!

Vulnerability isn't for pussies, far from it! Vulnerability is for men, who take pride in who they are and what they want... And that is pretty alpha to me!

- A

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