Hi I've been practising my game. Reading up on PUA material. But I'm getting Nowhere...just dates that fizzle out.

I'm 25, I've got game, clothing style, shaved head, looks (so I've been told) and the physique (I train in gym every day).

However I cannot seem to attract a woman. I feel that no matter what I do or say. It comes down to these sticking points: I'm very deaf (I don't sign but speak with a noticeably different accent...and no I'm unable to change it) and I'm only 5ft 6".

When I go out, I'm constantly surrounded by taller women in heels, or women my height wearing heels that make themselves taller than me so I have little choice when talking to women. It's even more difficult when yet at the same time I'm constantly surrounded by taller guys who AMOG me and seem to attract the said women. I know shorter women exist, but I've yet to see many. I was at a good bar last Saturday night, and about 90% of them were tall.

When I talk to a woman, they seem to be put off by my mild disability, looking at my hearing aid or asking me why I sound like I do when I speak. It kills my confidence everytime.

I got chatting to this HB on facebook who said I looked hot, we chatted for ages then we met up. She looked taken aback about my hearing aid, and she became more withdrawn. I never saw her again.

Does this mean there's no hope for me?

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i've never heard of a deaf person not being able to improve their speaking with more practice

That's very ignorant.... I'm 25 and nearly stone deaf since birth. I can hear a bit with a hearing aid.

I've had 15 years of speech therapy and they say it's as good as it can get. So I cannot change that. I can only speak what I'm only able to hear.

Are there any serious advice anyone? I cannot change my hearing loss (I had an op last May and it won't get better) and obviously can't change my height. Thanks.

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You have some challenges to overcome, no doubt. I would try online dating. It is by far the easiest way to get women. Also, you need to be upfront about your disability (not necessarily in profile but maybe before you meet) otherwise you will just be wasting women's time. You would be surprised that if a woman is interested the kind of things she will let by. PM me if you want some tips on online dating.

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overly defensive and angry. I have a feeling you arnt actually going to take anyone's advice as you can wallow in your own pity.

Is your hearing aid something that you point out yourself or is it something that girls are pointing out and asking about it?

If you are pointing it out yourself... this essentially is sub-communicating "Feel sorry for me because I have a hearing aid" which is really nothing for anyone to feel sorry about. Dude, its a fucking hearing aid. It's not the end of the world... At least advancement in modern day technology has allowed you to have such a thing so that you can hear.

If girls are pointing it out to you.... LIE! Tell them it is a hearing device installed by the FBI or some shit and they are listening in to every word you say. Point somewhere and say "Look... you're also on camera too!" Just make some shit up. I don't know of one girl that would say "he's got a hearing aid! that's so gross!"

I think girls are getting turned off by it because YOU are getting so turned off by it. Its worrying about the petty shit like that which will fuck your head up.

If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.

Even before you approach these girls, in your head you're thinking you are doomed to fail, that they will only notice your height and hearing aid, etc. which is a preconception most likely based on a handful of experiences if you really think about it.

Wear that stuff on your sleeve, the different accent makes you unique, as does the hearing aid. If you open girls and are already defeated in your head, it's over before it's begun.

"Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you."

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There is no doubt that you have some difficulties that I can in NO WAY relate to, so I am not going to give you a lot of "tips and tricks" when I really can't see things from your point of view... but I will say this!

A lot of people have overcome their disabilities and hooked up with incredible and beautiful women solely based on their incredible personality!

i would like to point out Sean Stephenson as a good example of this! I have linked to a video showing you this guy and what he have been through. He has also written a book called "Get off your but" and that is a great read! See him and then decide for yourself if you too can OVERCOME this disability and live a life filled with beauty and excitement.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P9i6calKZwk

I really hope this helps! The best of luck,
- Andreas Jacobsen

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One of the more famous serial killers feigned a disability to pick up women. If you can project a very masculine, sexual vibe, women are more likely to be nice and help you out.

Read up on some Ted Bundy, here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ted_Bundy. Just don't go around sarging with a chainsaw.

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Dude, not to sound too cliche but it's all about how well you play the card life has dealt you. If being short is affecting your self-esteem then check out Some Al-Pacino movies (Heat, Scent of a Woman, Scarface etc) and see how a short man exudes so much confidence and alphaness. This guy is probably shorter than you (many sources list him at 5'4) so use that as a mental reminder every time you feel bad about your height. Regarding your hearing aid issue, I think you should listen to the other guys and stop this victim mentality. It's lazy, it's very simple and easy but It will not get you anywhere, doing something about it will.

Hope it helps.

I think some of you are being a little unfair. Being deaf is a serious disability and it's not one you can just ignore or expect someone to ignore. (Majik, I believe the way he speaks is a much bigger issue than the hearing aid) However, I do agree with the attitude adjustment you may need. You need to think positively and make it obvious to those you talk to that you being deaf is not a big deal and that it just means you sound funny and not much more. Plenty of deaf people are very successful with women, as are plenty of people with crappy voices so it can be done.

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