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| Martin29 | PostPosted: Wed Sep 04, 2013 6:04 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Thu May 23, 2013 12:07 pm Posts: 13 | | Hello chaps, hoping for some advice.
Been out a few times casually with a girl from my social group and have slowly noticed things escalating - Touching, hugging, minor flirting in texts, etc.
The last time I went out with her I decided to make a move and kiss her, but she pulled away. I tried to carry on like nothing happened, as did she, and by time we were done we were back to hugging and playfully touching.
She said to text her, and I want to, but I'm not really sure what to say. Pretend it didn't happen? Point out that it did and then laugh about it with her? What should I text her?
Don't usually mind rejection and will usually just move on and learn from it, but this one feels so strange as I've never felt so sure about anything. Plus there's the fact that I am going to have to see this girl on a regular basis.
Anything I can do? And if not what's the best approach to put things right so there's not a huge elephant in the room every time we're together?
Thanks.
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| GamesSN | PostPosted: Wed Sep 04, 2013 6:19 pm | |
Joined: Thu Nov 08, 2012 3:19 pm Posts: 1472 | | Shoulda ploughed through, man.
Should have gone straight for the kiss unless she was reeling at the sight of you kissing her. You can always brush it off and if you brush it off she's okay about it so there's nothing really bad about it. It's only really bad if she gives you the LJBF talk. If she did that after you tried to kiss her just say yeah and be cool.
Don't talk about it, just ignore it. Go out with her one of the nights and both of you have a drink or two(Don't get hammered) and see where things lead.
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| Martin29 | PostPosted: Wed Sep 04, 2013 6:27 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Thu May 23, 2013 12:07 pm Posts: 13 | | I think I did try to plough through come to think of it, but she pulled away pretty hard. Completely threw me because like I said, I've never felt so sure of anything. Fortunately I didn't get the LJBF talk, and as above, we were hugging and touching again shortly after.
Thanks for the advice, my instincts were to confront this in some way, so I'm glad I asked.
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| Pikeman85 | PostPosted: Wed Sep 04, 2013 6:44 pm | |
Joined: Sun Sep 25, 2011 5:40 pm Posts: 885 | | I once had a girl I was out with on a date scream when I tried to kiss her.
I ended up fucking her later that night.
Just slow down for a bit, and escalate again later. Preferably with more drinking. She may just be nervous.
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| detox75 | PostPosted: Wed Sep 04, 2013 7:22 pm | |
| Offline | | PUA Forum Leader |  | Joined: Sat Oct 08, 2011 4:56 pm Posts: 1904 Location: Portland, OR | | Your instincts are likely incorrect, pretend it didn't happen, that puts the emotional onus on her as she will wonder what she means to you given your complete indifference. From there you can calibrate and re-engage when appropriate.
Note: As this is someone from your social circle I'm recommending a more delicate and passive approach than I normally would. You dont want to make a mess of this as it will affect your status in your social circle going forward
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| Martin29 | PostPosted: Wed Sep 04, 2013 8:34 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Thu May 23, 2013 12:07 pm Posts: 13 | | Absolutely, and as such I'm glad I popped by here first. Appreciate the sound and honest advice as always guys, thank you.
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