Had a girl from my college class meet up with me to party, and ended up bring her back to my bed at the end of the night. The girl gets up and leaves right before we have sex. I suppose the one reason I did not close was because I had not spent enough time with her yet. (Two 1 Hour Class Sessions, and 3 hours that night for a total of 5 hours)

All the basic IOI's were there, as well as the following:

1. I mentioned off hand during class that I was going to party, and so she texts me first and asks if I am still going out
2. We took body shots off each other
3. A lot of making out, (basically sex with our clothes on)
4. Her friends decided to leave the party, but I get her to stay by saying that we will head to my place after the party, and if I have to I will take her home.

After she left my place I texted her to make sure she got home safe: (short summary below)

-Me: I told her that I thought sex is what she wanted, and I was trying to please her.
-Her:She replied that it was fine that I tried to have sex with her, but sex is not what she wanted, and having sex with a guy so soon is not the kind of person she is. (Although all her actions that night suggest otherwise).
-Before going to bed, I told her that I was too drunk to control myself, and would make it up to her. Lastly, I said I would call her tomorrow when I sobered up.


I have yet to call today. She is a dime so I do not want to screw things up, and come across as a chump. As of now, my plan of attack is to call her and be honest. Basically, point out some of the various sex signals signals she was sending me. Tell her that she put me in a tough position if she did not want to have sex. (Because of how the night went). Lastly, tell her that I still respect her, and ask her to meet to get food and study.

This girl can get any guy, so I don't want to fuck this up. What should I do?

Just play it cool.

Meet one on one.

Try same again next time, then again and again.

Alcohol helps.

She just needs to be feel more comfortable. Don't get needy and be butt hurt on the texts. Just view it as a one step closer thing.

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Thanks for the help.

I figure honesty is the best policy

And you say you didn't want to come across like a chump? You're kidding right.

Why on earth are you back tracking and apologizing.. What did you do wrong? Make out with a girl that was sleeping in your bed and assuming she would be having sex with you? What guy wouldn't of thought that?

She should be making this up to you for giving you blue balls.. That was very selfish of her and you deserve and apology.

Thats like some guy punching you in the face and you say " sorry for making you mad enough to punch me, i'll make it up to you".. And then saying you said that because you didn't want to come across like a chump. lol


Keep putting women on pedastols mate - so how that turns out.

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Thanks for the tough love, and honest post.

So at this point I have come to two conclusions.
1. So much alcohol was consumed last night, so what I texted will not have too much bearing going forward.
2. Last night when I was drunk I said I would call the next day when I sobered up. I am not going to contact her. When I see here at school next week, I going to say that since she put me in position to have sex I am not sure what she expected, and why she resisted.

Good point Joey

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If I were you I would be a man of my word and call her like I said.. But this time in a happy go lucky voice just apologize for apologizing. Make her aware that you felt completely just in your actions.. She led you one.. But don't stay on that point for too long. After just switch into normal conversation and set up another time to hang out.

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This is where you fucked up.....

I took Joey's advice and went with the apologizing for apologizing route. After that, I broke contact for a few days. I saw the girl today in class. I didn't bring up what had happened, and neither did she. We started the same old flirting back and forth, all is well.

Thanks for the help guys.

I'm sure you already made a mess of this so this is just for future reference. Don't try to use reason or logic with a chick in of matters of attraction, employ the right side of your brain, not the left. It sounds like you are very good looking to attract the initial interest of a dime because your game has some fundamental holes in it

1. She is not a dime.

2. You don't let her set the pace, you do.

3. You gain momentum by luring her to your bed.

4. Then you spoon feed her into thinking sex is her idea. Why on earth would you apologize?! Apologize for being human? You're meant to reproduce. You found someone who you see as fit to carry your seed so you want to fuck her. She should feel honored.

5. As it is her idea for sex, any IOIs could be used to tease her. If she puts her hands on you "Hey, hands off the merchandise", "It costs $5 for people I just met to touch me but since you're cute I'll let you touch me for free".

6. ESCALATE. DONT BE SORRY FOR EXPLORING HER BODY. IF SHE BACKS OFF, YOU IMMEDIATELY PULL AWAY, ITS HER LOSS.

7. She'll be so horny she will beg to fuck you. Then in the morning you call her out on it saying you feel used.

8. She will make you breakfast to compensate.


I swear if you lead a girl into your room is every intention of fucking her, she will submit to it. Girls only do LMR because they try to think AHEAD. What other people might think if they found out, that she shouldn't be "slutting" around. You got to sell yourself strong enough AT THAT MOMENT where she doesn't have the chance to think ahead.

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