Ok so hit it off with some chick saturday night who i had met before once, making out in the club, she seemed pretty horny feeling my skin under shirt etc... anyway she was with a friend, unfortunately when we left who got in a bad way and ultimately this led to my girl comofrting her for ages. She wanted to stay with her friend so didn't want to force the issue as her friend needed someone so got her number, made out again and left.

Anyway, she text me midday sunday (day after) apologising for her friend, asked how i was feeling, and thought i may as well ask her out then. Unfortunately we couldn't decide on a day as our work and plans completely clashed... so this is where i need help with now as i need to know what to do as i'm awful at gauging at what to do here. Obviously she was keen last night, and enough so to at least text me today, but i'm wondering how i should deal with it now without sounding too needy, but at least pushing for a meet this week.

Basically she suggested i say what day is best for me and see if it works around her work. I suggested one day, she said she was working 6.30am next day so couldn't stay out late, and as i was working til 4.30pm anyway that day thought i'd suggest something else, so said wednesday, to which she said she was working late so couldn't do. tuesday i pushed and went all out saying i can't do weekend or any other day really due to the clashes, to which she said she already had plans, soo yeah caught between a rock and a hard place now.

1) Do i backtrack say saying i could meet you for a bit thursday as my shift has been made shorter.
2) Say i could meet you on weekend after all (i have no idea anyway if she has plans which is the issue) or
3) Do i just wait it out and text her next week as she said.
4) Something else!

As she basically left it as after i suggested tuesday to 'give me a text next week and maybe we'll try again'. 'Maybe?' (after long waits between text times) stands out there as a reason maybe i should push it, but yeah anyway, what do you guys think, what would you do in my shoes? Inexperienced with this as you can tell and just needed to talk it out and see what you guys thought! The issue i had was i don't want to come out sounding like i'm desperate as that sort of things is repellant to most people, but suggesting day after day generally comes across that way!

Thanks!!

It's called Flaking.

Just like you may do, say you have friday free and your Bro invites you to the bar with the guys. sounds cool. You say yes. Friday rolls around, and you're at home. The event is a half hour drive away. There's this chance some random chick your texting may want to hang out, so you make an excuse not to go.

Unfortunately, girls, have lot's of options, you seemed like something to do in the moment but not worth the effort when it comes down to it.

You need to build enough comfort prior to asking her out again, so that there is little chance she will make excuses or flake on you.

Build new rapport, get the heat going before trying again.

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I'm confused, i don't really see where you've got that from. She basically agreed to it but i said i couldn't do that day and I suggested 2 days early in the week which was risky but didn't work. Surely she wouldn't have texted if not interested. I agree that i needed to build more rapport though, but it helps i've met her before and have a mutual friend who we both know quite well.

I'm thinking text her tomorrow with this whilst also adding her on fb as having the fb is a lot more concrete than just having a number from what i have seen. anyway something like this "hey, how you doing? some hours of mine at work have changed so got some free time later in the week, what days are you free to do something?". it pretty much puts it out there that she suggests the day this time not me and as evenings are generally good for me it should work out. so from that i gauge if she is interested really.

What you think of that anyway? I want to be direct and go for the meet, as that is where my game is strongest.

Form this whole paragraph Typically if there is enough interest a girl will dodge a speeding bus to meet you. She could have simply stated when she would be free.
That does drop the ball in her court, if there is attraction, you will know.
The transition to get together would be naturally smoother.

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Hmm well it's tricky to tell as i could have potentially got her Thursday first time, and let's face it assume she isn't lying and she does have plans today or work tomorrow late it's not inconceivable to think? generally in the past if a girl isn't interested i find you won't get a reply at all, i'm getting replies here and importantly she was the person to initiate the conversation, so yeah, i'll see, obviously it's pretty difficult to gauge with people, but writing it out made me realise my options and from what i can see what i mentioned doing tomorrow looks the best thing as it gives a couple of days rest from texting so doesn't look like i care too much yet at the same time hopefully enough to show i want to see her whilst making a story which sounds reasonable.

anyway yeah i'm just gonna do what i mentioned tomorrow and see how that goes as as i say it puts it fully in her court, so it'll be obvious what signals i get after that. but yeah cheers for replying, and if you have any more advice go for it.

I agree, rapport is definitely something i need to work harder at, as you are right it would have been smoother, it naturally helps that i've met her before and have a mutual friend, and hope that can swing it as its not like i'm some weirdo she just met for the first time on a night out

So i tried the thing beneath but she had plans which was fair enough as when i added her on fb there was actually bits about those plans on her wall anyway so it was never like she was lying. Anyway text her today asked how she was and then got on to me asking and she saying she's free on friday day, to which point i said i'll text her a plan in the week.

What do i do now? I've actually never been on a day date, and with it being first too could really do with some help how to approach this one. text on wednesday saying a plan (ideas?). I'm quite skint too as i don't have a job SPAM, so too much expense isn't an option really. Any help on where i go with what i should do would be good! Thank you!

Wine tasting is the best free date ever invented if available near you

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Lots of girls are makeout whores. She probably does that every weekend.

She's most likely dodging you. As for the weekend, I give it a 50/50 on whether she would hang out with you at the club even if ya'll went together.