I need help.

Here is the problem. Me and my friends have been clubbing for a couple of years already and not once did we reach any kind of success getting with girls in the clubs. Clubbing sadly is my only option because I don't have any friends who are girls (my group of friends are all guys) and none of my friends that I hang out with know any girls they can introduce me to. If someone introduces me to a girl that's when i'm at my best in terms of talking to them because i feel comfortable and relaxed. On the other hand if I have to cold approach a girl at a club that I don't know at all I don't feel comfortable because 90% of the time in my experience girls in the clubs don't want to talk to you unless they know you beforehand.

If I only knew people who can introduce me to girls or who throw house parties I most likely would be in better shape because those are situations where I would thrive the most.

Now my 25th birthday is coming up and honestly I'm sort of feeling sad wishing I got anything done with girls. I want to ask is there any way I can quickly get the ball rolling and find chances to talk to girls before my 25th birthday in 6 days? I know there's a chance i am asking for the impossible but I want to start talking to girls ASAP because i'm not getting any younger since i'm already gonna turn 25 in 6 days and I haven't gotten with any girls for a long time....

Any helpful advice on how to get this done would be greatly appreciated. Thank you guys.

I am not sure if I have understood your situation correctly, but I will try to give my advice here...

First, why doesn't clubbing work for you? I have never gotten the impression from clubbing that people are only interested in talking to people, they know, as long you are an interesting and fun person! I have met a lot of girls, gotten some new friends and some hilorious memories from clubbing!

Anyway, the most urgent thing for you to do is to meet some girls now, and fast! Clubbing will not do for this, but you are going to have to be creative and fearless.

Check your local area, is there any concerts this week? Any openings? Any events? Basically anything with a large female attendance will do! Go there with the objective of SHOWING UP and go talk to at least 10 women! I don't care about the outcome, as long as you show up and approach her you are successful in my book!

What kind of girls are you interested in and where do they go? Then go there and meet them! Opportunities are EVERYWHERE! You just need to be aware of them and take action!

I hope this helped!

Sincerely
Andreas

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What do you need me to clarify on regarding my situation? Let me know what you need me to explain more about my problem

Anyhow let me answer your questions. Clubbing hasn't worked for me because most times that I have tried to talk to girls there, they usually either blow me off and ignore me or their friend pulls them away from me. There have been a few times I got to dance with them but that sadly didn't last very long and I was back to square one after when it came to finding girls to talk to, dance with, and have fun with. Honestly i'm a pretty fun and interesting person when you get to know me but I don't have much chances to show it if girls in clubs don't give me enough time to talk to them....

Anyhow, the only events I know about this week that is going on are club events and.... that goes back to my dilemma that my only choice for meeting girls is clubbing. I'd love the chance to meet girls at house parties but sadly nobody I know throws parties.

Anyhow let me know what else you need to know so that I can be sure that the advice you're giving me is the right one. Thanks for your input bro!

You have clarified it, so now I think I understand what place you are coming from.

You say that "clubbing sadly is your only option." I seriously don't get that! Women are EVERYWHERE; when you grocery shop, in the mall, in the park, wherever! I have met a lot of girls in different venues; bowling with friends, at the movies, ice skating and relaxing in the park!

if it is because day game scares you more than night game, I will tell you this... In my experience, day game is not nearly as "harsh" as night game can sometimes be! When it is day time, women are in general much more polite and "real". of course, it is a very different setting than night game, and women are not used to men approaching them in day time, but you know what? They are also far more IMPRESSED. Just make sure you are coming from a frame of honesty, and you will be fine.

See woman -> Approach ("Hi" will do, introduction. Admit you are a little nervous but that you wanted to meet her) -> Give compliment (let her know why you found her attractive in the first place) -> tell her you want to know more about her and ASK HER OUT! Or, in your case, invite her to your birthday party

I know it might sound terrifying, but as long as you show up and DO SOMETHING, you are incredibly successful!

What do you think about this?

- Andreas

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One more thing!

Clubbing is all about finding the right girl; namely, the girl who are looking for sex that night!

Go for girls dancing a little by herself, looking at you intensely, playing with her hair while looking at the crowd, dancing seductively with her friends. When you become aware of these signals and approach the girls looking for some action, you barely need any game!

night game is brutal... This Saturday, I probably approached 20+ girls in the night club, get rejected a few times, some other times her friends dragged her away, cockblocked other times... But I found some girls who were looking for sex, and I ended up bringing one of them home and we had sex!

If you can handle the rejection, it is all about meeting enough women in one night until you find the girl interested in sex right away! Don't waste your time.

- Andreas

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Then work that other 10% that will talk to you man.

Work on improving your "game" if you want to increase the ratio of girls that will talk to you. Stop being so concerned about your "batting average" and talk to as many girls as possible.

THIS can't be afraid of rejection.

Well, if night game is not working out that well for you and you're not comfortable with it after so many years of going to the clubs, try daygame.

I'm sure there's a mall, restaurant, or grocery store near your place that you can hangout at within just a few minutes of driving or walking distance. Say, there's a McDonald's store 5 minutes away.

Take your breakfast or lunch at this store for 5 straight days and just say 'Hi' to the hottest girl crew in the store. Smile. Make small talk and so on until both of you are comfortable with each other.

Service crews (at least in my place) are usually working students who work to help support themselves through college. If a crew is hot, she will usually have a lot of hot friends too at the university.

Always approach the hottest girls, put them in the friendzone, and be very sexual and fun around them.

Field tested. You might have few to almost zero single night lays, but you'll get laid like a horny rabbit.

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Start small, this is what motivates me to keep moving forward. One wise man once said
“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”- Lao Tzu

Let's begin by realizing how much potential we have. We can be anything we choose when we are ready to take the initiative and take action. Always know that picking up and dating women is a low risk high reward scenario. Get this through your head! Even if you fail or get rejected its a learning experience and even a confidence boosting experience. I know your wondering, how does rejection boost my confidence? The answer is simple, you simply become resilient too it. Once your resilient to rejection you will not be afraid of it because you know you can take another shot till you make it. Think of it like basket ball. You have a goal: romantic relationship for example. Keep shooting your ball at the goal till you make it. If you miss, no big deal. Pick the ball up again and shoot. When you score it will build your confidence even more and you know what to do next time. Remember it's small daily improvements that will lead to long term results. Stop watching porn to fulfill your sexual needs. You can learn from it, sure. But, like basketball, do you really just want to sit around and watch other people play or do you want to get up and join the game yourself? C'mon guys we got ladies to score with! Get up and play!
"You are not limited by what you can do, but what you are willing to try. Through effort we discover the ever-expanding universe of improvement that has virtually no limits"-unknown

Phase One: Build confidence and get the phone numbers.

First, set your self a small daily goal.
Daily Goal: When the opportunity presents itself say "Hi" to at least one new beautiful woman.
Doing this daily will increase your confidence in approaching women because there is no risk involved. Just a friendly hello.

Next, set a weekly small goal. Make it a slightly harder then the daily goal.
Weekly Goal: Out of one of these women that you say "Hi" to, also ask them a question and try to carry the conversation for at least 1 minute or more. (remember leave the conversation before they do. Simply because this will give you power over the situation and women like men with power and want what they can't have)
Doing this weekly goal will improve your conversation skills and overcome social shyness when talking with beautiful women.

Last, set monthly goal. Make it slightly harder then the weekly goal.
Monthly Goal: Out of one of these women that you say "Hi" to and start a conversation with, also get their phone number. (if you don't get the number on the first try, move on to the next. "When one door closes another one opens." keep this on mind)
Doing this weekly goal will help you build resilience to rejection and also build your confidence in being assertive. It will also give you a number to a possible romantic connection.

Phase 2: Dating goals: To be continued...






Things to remember.
Write your goals down! Make a check list and a deadline!
Be your self
Do not care what others think
Ask your self if you would date you(if not, make the neccissary adjustments you need to be a better version of your self)
Listen to them
See rejection and failure as growth for success. "I've failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed." - Michael Jordan

From my point of view this is just a limiting belief.
I personally don't like clubs or discos, so I just don't go there, I prefer going to bars and pubs at night.
I'd suggest you to go to places you like because the most important thing for you is to have fun!!!
Once you are having fun (be it with your friends or alone) talk to the people nearby and share your fun with them. The more fun you're having, the more people will like to be part of it!
And remember not to care with the result, your goal is to have fun in the first place!

PS: If I made any mistake while writing, please correct me. I want to improve my English too