I a am proactive guy, and a goal setter, thus in almost all activities in my life I have the end in mind. I feel that this can be problematic for my gaming skills. Rather than enjoying a girl's presence entirely in the present moment, I am often thinking two steps ahead. A lot of my success has come during the nights where I was entirely in the moment, and had no expectations of taking a girl home. Although outcome dependency is not a be all end all game killer, I can see where it effects my game and judgement, especially with girls I begin to establish some sort of relationship with.

What are some good tips to eliminate outcome expectation?

Also, for girls that you want to establish a relationship with, what are some good tips to prevent yourself from falling into a scarcity mindset and lowering your value?

I have the problem that when I like a girl for her personality, and the way she acts around me, I am fueled with desire to go after her. I am determined to spend time with her, and thus become outcome dependent. I am ashamed to admit that at times I become needy. When it comes to girls where I could care less about them, and just talk to them because I want to hookup, I ignore them. They begin to chase after me, and so I am direct in telling them that either can hookup up with me, or leave me alone.

How do I get the girls I really like to invest in me and not just booty calls?

Hi,

You raise some good questions.
it's good that you recognize this. success comes when you are relax and enjoy the moment, and not think 2 steps ahead, as you say. How about changing your goals, at least for a while and see what happens. Instead of going in the sets and trying to get girls, see if you can go in the set and be comfortable in your own skin and just relax. Don't think gamewise, and don't act gamewise. Once you are comfortable with yourself, include "gaming mode" on top of being comfortable and relaxed.
I guess that this is where inner game steps in. If you know who you are, and what you want out of life and you know how to get there, this is all that matters. Focus is on you, not on the outside world. I only think in the field when I am not in the state yet. And my expectations of next set are nonexistent. I just want to open and push myself, if these are my first couple of sets in the night. When I am in the state, I don't think. I am just happy and flowing and I just want to have fun when talking to girls.
Again, know you you are, what you want. Go do your think, chase other girls, and be ready to let this one go.

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