Apologies if this has been covered else where, searching for the term "last minute" tends to bring up lots of lmr results.

If a girl texts or calls you last minute (let's assume texts for the purpose of this scenario) and asks if you want to do something, what's the best way to respond?

Replying yes could seem like you're willing to drop everything for her or worse, that you had no plans to begin with.

I was thinking something along the lines of saying that you already have plans quickly followed by asking her what would make going out with her more fun - So that she has to earn it. But I can't think properly how to word it, or if that's even the right approach?

Advice appreciated.

I know a lot of people may disagree but if a girl wants to see and you her and you don't have plans then you should meet up with her. Who cares if it is last minute she wants to see you and you should do something about it.

Go!

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Lads, I agree completely and wasn't suggesting that saying no was the way to go. I was just wondering if there's a good way to save face. After all, saying yes reveals yourself as the guy who had nothing to do on a Saturday night, which goes against everything I've read so far.

Am I over-thinking things?

Completely overthinking because you had a million things you could of done, but you choose to hang out with her.

You could of sat home and read a book

You could of say home and watch movies

You could of went out to dinner with yourself

Went to a bar alone

etc. etc.

The only thing that needs to be expanded is your perception. I remember when a girl texted me asking what I'm doing. I said " out at dinner".. She texted me back " By yourself? " and I responded " Of course I love being alone. I'm awesome"

When you love yourself, hanging out alone is always "something to do" . Those "pua's" that wrote the things you read have been promoting a low level of thinking for a long time. Most of them are nerds that are just figuring this out - 7 years old in the social world - You're much better than that.
Joey

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Ah. This is an opportunity for you to make her feel special and DHV at the same time.

"Give me a few minutes. I'll make changes to my Wunderlist. Reschedule that one. Cancel this one and this one... There you go. Let's go."

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When you're out with her, she will try to reciprocate. Don't stop her from doing nice things for you. If you let her reciprocate, she will feel a deeper emotional connection with you.

Sometimes though, you'll have to be unpredictable and decline a girl's invitation. If you want to keep this girl, it's all about the emotional roller coaster ride.

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Thanks for the advice guys.