its something ive come across before, and i want to know how to deal with it. Im building a relationship with a girl, and then she'll say something along the lines of 'I'll feel vulnerable if i show/give too much'. I understand that, but for relationships to work out, you cant hold back like that, its a road block. What can i do to facilitate her not feeling this way around me? In a way it prevents me from moving forward to that next phase in the relationship.

-DM

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I have the same problem bud, she won't open up and when I confront her about it she would just nod and not answer, dead cold. i'll be doing all the talking when we have a talk about our situation.
Then later on she would send me a text saying 'I'm sorry.. I dont' want to get hurt & I really don't want to lose you'

I wreckon it needs time. But I'm curious what other people will say.

It sounds like in both instances, they may of had a pervious bad experience which has made them feel insecure and therefore are unwilling to invest too much emotion.

I'm not sure if comfort building alone will be enough, but you will have to respect any underlying problems they might have experienced such as a previous bf who played with her emotions, lied, cheated on her or just generally messed with her head all the way to the other extreme of physical violence.

Possibly trying to find the route of the cause of such issues without being too invasive might work and demonstrate to her that you're not going to be that guy.
But using game or routines or confronting her about it on will only keep those defences up - A more subtle approach may be needed and possibly over a period of time.