i dont know this girl, she added me on facebook and now we are going out.

should i ask her for her favorite pleace or just take her somewhere?

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Don't ask her her favorite place, your the man, act like it and make the plans. Go for a drink and if that goes well get some dinner. Don't overcomplicate it and think to much on it, its a first date not an engagement proposal. GOOD LUCK Also the last time I had a blind date I played a game where you have to talk about yourself for two minutes we did this right away. I made her go first and already knew what I was going to say...It went really well, had a few drinks then dinner then went back to her place.

Honestly when it comes to date. I personally don't want to think it as date, but more casual as a 2 person going out to have fun instead. When asking out a date. Either you, women or both of you have deliberately, and worst case it could lead you to feel nervous, shy, giving considerations of fear whatever for her rejecting you.

Instead, go out with her, talk as you are doing with your friends kind off, have fun, enjoy the moment.

Like havegunwilltravel said. Take control of the situation, and being spontaneous (advice from me). If you feel hungry, ask her if she is hungry. If you feel you want to take a casual drink at a bar do that. Just go out and have fun, be yourself naturally, but don't be 100%. Keep 5-10% off your personality since, it could lead to friend zone. Just remember touchy touchy (escalating) as early as possible. Start with casual, when you feel more comfortable, then switch from casual to a bit more sexual touch by holding around her whatever. Try and search on the forum about tips how to escalate. I think the person who posted good info was Manjo, Jumal or something... Don't remember.

Don't ASK her where she wants to go, that is loser behavior.

If you overheard her mentioning something or some place she likes as part of normal conversation, remember it and consider taking here there. If not, just come up with something.

Sometimes I wonder why I have a hard time with women when I read other people going on dates yet being oblivious to these simple things.

yo thanks a lot for the responses.
i had a few plans planed out but as soon as i get her she tells me she's vegetarian.
so we started heading to a pleace she knew she really liked, but she didnt know were it was exactly.
i had this house music in my car, and she didnt liked it so she wanted to play her own music. she played some elvis presley style blues and i was like ok...
then at dinner she started talking about how difficult it was to be with her and therapy and all this stuff. she is the apsolute opposite of me and i think we made very little connection.
things got better when i runned the cube on her cuz other than that we had nothing in common. but it was ok, i had a good time, and its a good experience.

i might be able to see her again and escalate, but im not sure i feel attracted to this chick it seems he's got a lot of issues and she isnt my fisical type either,

i guess i just wanted to go for it and see what happened.

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