I told this girl I don't wanna be friends. Was I right?



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PostPosted: Fri Aug 09, 2013 7:17 am 
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My friend told this girl that I was looking for an Asian girlfriend and with my permission he gave her my number so she can contact me. She texted me then we were talking and getting to know each other. I asked her to have lunch with me so we can get to know each other. She told me that she wasn't ready for a relationship and I told her that it was cool and I didn't expect her to be my gf right away because I just wanted to get to know her.

She told me that even if I get to know her that she still wont be ready for a relationship and she told me she wants to be strictly friends and nothing more. I told her straight up that I don't want that and i'm not interested in having her as a friend. I told her that if she doesnt wanna be more than friends then I prefer to have nothing to do with her because i'm not looking for friendship from girls. I'm looking for girls that want to be more than friends with me. End of story.

Did I do the right move in getting rid of her or did I not? Thanks for your time guys


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PostPosted: Fri Aug 09, 2013 8:19 am 
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Her saying that means "I don't want you to act all serious on me right away but I still want to get fucked" and you basically told her she had to be your wife or nothing. I know you didn't literally say that... But it was what was implied to her.


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PostPosted: Fri Aug 09, 2013 9:15 am 
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Her saying that means "I don't want you to act all serious on me right away but I still want to get fucked" and you basically told her she had to be your wife or nothing. I know you didn't literally say that... But it was what was implied to her.
Agreed. You should have met up with her, THEN navigated.


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PostPosted: Fri Aug 09, 2013 9:41 am 
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If there is one thing i´ve had to learn and understand its : Do not believe what a woman tells you! Tomorrow, everything she said today doesnt mean shit.
My girl said she only wants to be friends. I was in your situation. But i said "okay lets be friends for now" and she even said "maybe my feelings for you will change" so... here i am 4 month later... and she starts asking me for dates, sending me kiss smilies heart smilies and what not...
Just because you dont get what you want RIGHT NOW doesnt mean you will never get it. "Friendship" is cool. Im pretty sure deep down inside every girl knows that they cant be "just friends" with a guy for to long anyways.


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PostPosted: Fri Aug 09, 2013 10:28 am 
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If there is one thing i´ve had to learn and understand its : Do not believe what a woman tells you! Tomorrow, everything she said today doesnt mean shit.
My girl said she only wants to be friends. I was in your situation. But i said "okay lets be friends for now" and she even said "maybe my feelings for you will change" so... here i am 4 month later... and she starts asking me for dates, sending me kiss smilies heart smilies and what not...
Just because you dont get what you want RIGHT NOW doesnt mean you will never get it. "Friendship" is cool. Im pretty sure deep down inside every girl knows that they cant be "just friends" with a guy for to long anyways.

I need to ask, how long did it take for you after you first talked to her to go on your first date?

I will admit I'm not very patient at all. I'm constantly busy with my life since i'm going to school and i'm always working so I really don't have a lot of time for myself.

So most of the time I really want a girl to be upfront with me in regards to whether she wants to start dating me or not


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PostPosted: Fri Aug 09, 2013 10:40 am 
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I need to ask, how long did it take for you after you first talked to her to go on your first date?
I dont think you want to know that lol...read my other threats about this girl.
But to answer your question: I think it took about 3 or 4 month until i went on my first date with her ALONE.


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Her saying that means "I don't want you to act all serious on me right away but I still want to get fucked" and you basically told her she had to be your wife or nothing. I know you didn't literally say that... But it was what was implied to her.
Agreed. You should have met up with her, THEN navigated.
Second that. And besides, even if she just wants to be friends, she may have hot friends looking to date.


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I told her that if she doesnt wanna be more than friends then I prefer to have nothing to do with her because i'm not looking for friendship from girls. I'm looking for girls that want to be more than friends with me. End of story.
First of all, why don't you want girls as friends?

Your stance must have come off as very intense.

And as someone else said, female friends can introduce you to friends who would be interested.

You've got to compromise to get anywhere in life dude.

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Her saying that means "I don't want you to act all serious on me right away but I still want to get fucked" and you basically told her she had to be your wife or nothing. I know you didn't literally say that... But it was what was implied to her.
Agreed. You should have met up with her, THEN navigated.
Second that. And besides, even if she just wants to be friends, she may have hot friends looking to date.
I agree too. I wouldn't have cut her off because like a previous poster had mentioned maybe by next week she would have changed her mind. Plus who knows how many hot girls you could have met through her. Something to keep in mind for next time.


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I told her that if she doesnt wanna be more than friends then I prefer to have nothing to do with her because i'm not looking for friendship from girls. I'm looking for girls that want to be more than friends with me. End of story.
First of all, why don't you want girls as friends?

Your stance must have come off as very intense.

And as someone else said, female friends can introduce you to friends who would be interested.

You've got to compromise to get anywhere in life dude.
Sorry guys I forgot to mention in the original post that she didn't wanna go out

Anyhow don't get me wrong guys, I don't mind having girls as friends. As I told her last night, I just don't have time for non-essential people who will offer me nothing in my life. She was just gonna be a waste of time because she didn't even wanna spend time with me in the first place even for something as simple as a bite to eat so I have no idea what use I would've had for her

I'm sorry if I sound impatient guys but i'm looking to make progress in getting dates with girls, not making friends with girls who have nothing to offer me. I'm pretty old and I never had a girlfriend before so I pretty much want to start getting dates with girls (that I actually want) as soon as possible


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Did I do the right move in getting rid of her or did I not?

haha you did not even meet her. how can you say that over the phone? first you go out with her and see. if you see that all she wants is friends and you do not want friends, put her in a taxi.

Do not believe what a woman tells you!

don’t believe nobody, don’t believe men either. everybody is a liar. had enough of that.

I forgot to mention in the original post that she didn't wanna go out

haha then it’s all good. lol

when woman says lets be friends she says you are not good as a sperm and you are not good as a husband, but i will not mind to use your resources.


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Did I do the right move in getting rid of her or did I not?

haha you did not even meet her. how can you say that over the phone? first you go out with her and see. if you see that all she wants is friends and you do not want friends, put her in a taxi.

Do not believe what a woman tells you!

don’t believe nobody, don’t believe men either. everybody is a liar. had enough of that.

I forgot to mention in the original post that she didn't wanna go out

haha then it’s all good. lol

when woman says lets be friends she says you are not good as a sperm and you are not good as a husband, but i will not mind to use your resources.

the crazy part is I wouldn't be surprised if she was exactly like that....


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Been in a similar situation. I actually went on a date with a girl once, broke down to her towards the end talking about an ex gf who clearly I wasn't quite over.

Next morning my date had called me saying friends only. Did the friend's bit for 2 months (was hard to do as I really liked this girl). Needless to say we became a couple after that time and we were together for 7 years. She's been in my life now 13 years and is my best friend.

Food for thought;)


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