Been talking to a girl for a few weeks on facebook/text and SPAM. Solid game she was attracted...I pussied out and never took the initiative to hangout with her, if i did, I could've been the boyfriend or at least fucked her...that's besides the point, I know what I did wrong. With my failure to take initiative, the girl now has boyfriend, going to the same college as us.

How do I treat the boyfriend?
How do I talk to him?
Do I AMOG him?

And

How do I treat the girl now?
Minimal contact for 3 months? Or continue as I always have?

Help would be greatly appreciated!

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When you do the right thing, you will be shocked at the things that will happen in return. When you do the right thing, it always comes back.

There is only one thing I can think of: make friends with the guy. Sun Tsu said "keep your friends close, and your enemies closer", and besides, being in the same social circle you can pick up on any tension on their relation and capitalize on that.

Good luck.

Give him a reach around

Here is what you should do:

1) Forget about the girl sexually.
2) Treat her like you'd treat anybody else. You should be treating anybody else with respect and they should enjoy your company.
3) Apply step 2) to her boyfriend
4) Go find a new girl

Why make this so complicated? The girl and the guy linked up. Be happy for them. Be friends with them. Learn that you don't have to fuck every girl you ever come into contact with and that any guy that gets a girl you like doesn't have to be AMOGed or otherwise destroyed.

Move on to the next girl, there are only another few billion out there, your chances are pretty good.

+1 , agreed.

Next question.

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I agree with Daniel.

However, if you're really stubborn and you want the girl here's a small tip:

The relationship hasn't been for a long time (hasn't exceeded a year) or so. What you have to do is make friends with the boyfriend, as the other guys said here. However, when you are with them, you have to outmatch him by being more interesting than him. Over time, she will start to notice and get attracted to you and start wanting an exciting guy like you.

Simple procedure: Talk to everyone in the place when you are with them. Consider it as enlarging your social network. Get to know everyone and make everyone laugh and smile. As soon as you start seeing IOI from her, give her signals. She'll probably notice since women decode signals like crazy and you will end up having her.

Hope this helped

Ok, I'll stay cool with her and the bf....but I want this girl for myself eventually....

Anymore tips on how to stay attractive to her while she has a bf?
How should I be a guy she just hooks up with sometimes for fun, if possible, or as close as possible to that?

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When you do the right thing, you will be shocked at the things that will happen in return. When you do the right thing, it always comes back.

We have all been there when we failed to capitalize on opportunities presented. From personal experience I would say keep the contact minimal obviously if you were constantly texting back and forth this has to stop. Like everyone else said be cool and friendly with them both, be unaffected. Don't completely shut her out though and don't ever ask about her new boyfriend if you talk to her. Don't chase her and if you can, make sure she sees that you have other women in your life.

Bro, forget about her.

Its a lone girl.

Why are you wasting precious mental energy on eventually getting her for yourself? Move on. Go find a new girl. You guys pontificating about how you can appear unaffected or socially proofed or whatever else is just retarded. She is not going to notice. Why don't you think about how you can make your life worthwhile and then go live it?

Get out of this PUA brainwashed mindset where every social interaction is some sort of play for power or status or pussy. Just live your life, talk to the girls you want to, and if they aren't interested in you, file them into your memory right next to the place where you keep memories of piece junk mail and every license plate you've ever seen.

In other words, file it in the trash.