Hey guys,

Well this is my first post, but I have been reading PUA material for a while and it has really helped me...but im stuck on this friendzoned bull.

So anyways there is this HB, at least a 9. We go to the same uni, were SPAM in our first year but not that close and i have a gf at that time. 2nd year comes and we get closer...going to bars, clubs, studying together and just having fun, but it always seemed to me to be more than friends.

One night we both drink way too much, dancing together etc and the next day i couldnt remember what had happened; I ask her if she remembered the whole night, she says "yes", I then ask her if we hooked up, she said that she "couldnt remember".
It is important to note that I am still in a relationship at this point.

The following day she asks me to go to visit her on one of our uni's holidays in Norway (she is Norwegian), I decline for obvious reasons; but we go out the next night where she tells me if i was single she would "have fallen in love with me", but still refers to me as her "buddy/brother"- I clearly feel friendzoned here .

I decide to break contact for the summer and now after 1 month (and her getting into a casual relationship) get a text from her at 3 am saying "miss you..."

How the hell do I reply to this; just ignore it or answer some cocky-funny way?

I am still with my gf, but know there are some feelings stirring for this other girl. I have never been unfaithful to my girl, as this post may make me look like an asshole lol.

Anyways thanks guys!

Which girl do you want? I mean you already have a girlfriend but your post makes it seem like you want to dump your GF and get the other one. So I have two questions. Are you the guy who commits to one girl? And which one do you want more?

Thats the thing, i am not sure.

I know I have something for both of them, sounds like crap but its true.

thanks for the reply.

You weren't friend zoned from what I can tell (it depends on the context she was telling you this stuff).

It sounds like she really likes you, but she isn't going to outright say she wants you when you're in a relationship. Big chance for rejection for her. Just because a girl says she wants to be friends doesn't necessarily mean she's not sexually attracted to you - it can mean that. It can also be a "shit test", it can also be a socially acceptable way of gauging whether you two are dating compatible while you are currently attached.

Pretty sure it's the last one there.

I hooked up with a girl who was casually seeing someone this year, and they didn't want to ruin that before making sure I was pretty cool, so they wanted to hang out ONLY as friends. Even though we hooked up literally the second time we hung out as friends.