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Thanks for your replies.
So how should I ask her out? "Hey do you wanna go get a drink?" Or "Hey, we're going for a drink together", Or "hey, why don't we go for a drink sometime?" I mean, how should I phrase it?
I'll share with you my worries:
1. I ask her out, she agrees, than I wouldn't know how to progress and make the situation more sexual than friendly, and we remain friends (that actually happened to me a few times

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2. I ask her out, she agrees, I am able to escalate the situation into a more sexual one, we kiss, and since it would me my first kiss she'll think "hell this guy kisses my like he's eating french fries" and she'll be turned off.
don't worry
the things your worried about are purely figments of your imagination
only look at whats directly in front of you, don't even think about the girl unless your talking to her.. even then the attention you give her is mostly peripheral.
& honestly, the only way to make it sexual is probably gonna be uncomfortable to you and the girl but it's the right thing to do.
girl's don't fuck guy's their comfortable with, plain and simple.. you ever see a girl act "comfortable" at a concert for her favorite singer hell no, she's all over the place with that nervous excitement.. you have to make girls nervous in a good way to get them to have sex with you.
the same way your super worried about what this girl thinks about you is how SHE should be about YOU...
Now normally you either got it or you don't, but there IS a way to jam that same vibe into gear if your good..
and it requires you to be deliberately awkward and over-escalate on the girl in a very irreverent & authoritative but still light hearted and fun way..
like if I do this, I'm gonna get RIGHT in the girls face in a way thats completely uncomfortable for her.. but I'm not gonna make any apologies for my actions.. this is me.. take it or leave it... and I'm gonna run the same cocky funny game but all in her face where the physical connection is more apparent and the interaction feels more visceral and sexual..
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like that ^^
go for make outs.. if she says no, persist.. if she allows me, try and arouse her so she's getting super super horny and therefore less concerned with consequences or what she is or isn't "supposed to" do.
and eventually she gets so horny that she begins to initiate sex and I just get out of the way and let her..
thats probably a farrrrrrrrrr cry from where your at, but just an example of what to shoot for.
as a newbie, I think your best bet is gonna be to "baby step" your sexual intentions
so.. you wanna take it really slooooooooowwww, don't rush anything.
before you escalate, you wanna preframe her so she expects it & doesn't resist it as much..
"would you get offended if I tried to make out with you?"
"I just like you but don't wanna come off weird"
don't be permission seeking (a little bitch), but be empathetic and considerate towards the girl so she graaaaaadually comes around to giving up more and more power in the interaction...
remember slowwwwwwwwww and fun... keep her laughing, don't let the excitement die down.. but keep leading the interaction to a sexual place slowly but surely..
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