So met this girl at a salsa dance workshop/demo i gave. Nothing special just a really cute girl which i danced and talked with.

2 Weeks later went to a festival. When i looked arround i saw somoene staring at me. Looked her in the eyes and it was on! Long talk good comfort and kino. Heavy IOI's non verbal as verbal. Genuine shit from my side. Really allot of clicking points. She asked me over to join her and her friends for a while. Hanged out with her for like 1-3 h. Before i left she excused herself for not giving full attention to me because she wanted to give her friends aswell. She saw i was like "Euhh Oke.." and she told me not to get it wrong blabla. I told her i would have left allready if my friends picked up the phone and i knew where they wer (Dont like to go searching for 1h)

Anyway I left. Found my friends, Told her via text to come to me later when it ended. First off she was like coming and then said rather dance.


Got her facebook of the workshop picture people wer tagged saw she had a boyfriend.

Lol as i write this its pretty clear she probably just got very caught up in the moment and later reconsidered herself and maybe by her friends about whats she is doing. As i am sure if i'd stay on the same camping/spend more time with her she was a sure case.

would like advise how to proceed. I think myself she will flake and wont attend the date we planned (No concrete plans but i would help her with dancing) And how should i adress the boyfriend thing? My personallity is to adress this if we would proceed into meeting more often. I am not a total badass who just fucks for fucks. All my fbuddys i am genuinely interested in and we need to be line with eachother to work meaning for me it must be discussed.

When dealing with a girl with a boyfriend, this is what I do:

1 - Use the straw man technique. It's a kind of a long shot, but it may eventualy work. And there is no harm done in trying.

2 - Run your own game, you don't have to get rid of him, just be better than him. Think about it this way: If you have a buick and someone offers you a bentley, would you not trade? It's the same with girls. Surpass the guy and she will eventually dump him for you. Besides, girls are like apes, they only let go of a branch when the have gripped the next, so don't be afraid to be "the other" for a while.

3 - Accept the friend zone. This is more of a long term strategy and it's a dicy one, but if you are her friend, she may come to you in an emotional and fragile state when she eventualy breaks up with him, giving you a good oportunity to make a move.

Good hunt