K so there is this girl I like alot...and i recently confessed that I loved her (newbie mistake)
we went out about 2 months ago and we took a break because I "hurt" her by repeating a couple of mistakes her previous exs have done

- called her a gold digger
- got clingy
- got insecure and scared because she talks to alot of guy friends

oh and she is a gamer girl so that's that...i just want her back really and i have been trying to upgrade my game, we use to sex talk, cam, all that jazz...but she continues to talk to me just not like that...shes afraid of really committing and being hurt again...now she says "shes too busy for a relationship" which is an easy way of blowing me off but take a look at this...
(for every space is the texts that are sent)

Amy...

You're a smart girl, and I strongly believe that you know in your heart that I do not wish to hurt or offend you in any way.

And I also believe that you know that I would not like to hurt myself. I feel that we should be able to be the two happiest people on the planet, if we choose.

I understand if you can't understand how you're seen as the coolest chick I've ever known, because that would require you looking deep down into your soul & seeing yourself how I see you.

This is why I need for you to understand that I was in pain, Amy. I was hurting. Keeping such powerful feelings to myself, was literally causing suffering and agony to my heart.

I apologize if I hurt you, but I do not apologize for how I felt -- how I feel.

Look, you know you're beautiful, even when you try your hardest to deny it. Even if you somehow manage to forget how beautiful you are, I'm sure someone will always be quick to remind you. I know you're beautiful.

I thought long and hard about whether or not I should speak with you again. Not from anger, but from fear. I feel that fear is the only emotion that can beat out love, sometimes, in a head-to-head battle.

Was I afraid that you would beat me up? Well yeah, cause your cute ass is kinda crazy..

Mostly, I was afraid of your rejection. I know many dudes probably hit on you, every day, and while it's a gamble for you to know who wants you for you, versus who wants you for your body, you wouldn't have to gamble with me.

Amy, you're fat, bald, your breath stinks, your eyes are different colors, and only one of them look at me when we speak, but I like you anyway.

I miss you. Don't be a stranger.


*she then replies 2 hours later*

Wow calling me fat and ugly

Not a smart move

Well dude you put it all out oin the table. There's nothing more that can be said. I am guessing the fat and ugly comment was was because she felt obligated to respond but hadn't absorbed everything you said so she responded to you're joke. I personally wouldn't have put all my feelings out there like that. Even though you were just saying how you felt she could have percieved it as needy, but atleast now she knows how you feel this is a convo you should have had in person or at least called her. I would just let her be now do not contact her until she contacts you she's gonna need a bit to absorb what you said and its best to let her have some space to do that, but that's just my view on the situation.

here is me being an idiot so hours later I reply with this

Amy, you're right. It probably wasn't the smartest thing I could say to you, but it did do 2 things... I can't say what the first thing was, but the second purpose it served, was to cushion the blow, and get you to not feel in an awkward place, after I confessed to you about how I feel about you. I don't want you to feel weird around me, so that little troll message was thrown in, so you wouldn't feel forced or obligated to need to say something you don't mean (in response), just to satisfy me. I would never force you to do anything you don't want to do, even if it was you simply speaking something I've dreamt about you saying to me. So I tossed in some random, extremely falsified insults, so you wouldn't feel urged to say something you're not ready to say. So yes, I take full responsibility for calling you those things. Please forgive me for that, Amy.

then about 20 minutes later she replies

"mhmm sure"

then I give her some space and reply back about 5 hours later and say

":)"

"what are you doing today?"

I read that wrong I thought she called you fat and ugly as a joke after what you said to her. I definitely would have advised against such an emotional response I would have just said something like awe come on now I shouldve known you can't take a joke. Maybe not those words exactly but something along those lines. After that response I'd say its definitely time to back off. You laid it all out twice which is 2 times more then I would have. Like I said before its time to give her some space to let her absorb and possibly cool down if she's mad about the fat joke. Do not txt her unless she texts you 1st anything you say to her from here on out is gonna do more damage then good.

so even if she replies to my last two texts? do not text her at all?

It depends what she says. If she says something that suggests she wants to have a convo then ya talk to her I have my doubts about that. If she responds in a similar fashion to her previous txts don't reply. The way she's replying is suggesting that she doesn't want to talk right now. Take that as a sign to back off and play it cool for a while.

In trying to apologize and justify everything you said to her you showed that you put way more value on her then you do on yourself. That's a mistake you jumped to apologize right away. You should have given her a bit of a hard time about not being able to take a joke. Even though what you said may have crossed the line at least you would have shown you can stand up for yourself, and if she was truely offended you could have said something like I am sorry you know I was only kidding without the whole long emotional speech. I am gonna change what I said even if she replies wanting to talk don't answer it show her you don't need her you can live without her you came off pretty needy that's your first step to recovering from that.

Only high school kids pour their hearts out over multiple texts messages to their crush..

Call her.

well i did call her when i told her how i felt...but i feel like she needs some space now so I let her come to me as gunfighter suggested. Oh btw I'm 19 and shes 18.

So, I posted this new pic of a girl im talking to, and she saw it and she put her status as "someone's a try hard"

she is acting like she isn't jealous but in reality it really got to her.

She then texts me a few minutes later saying that she is sorry for being bitchy to me she has been pmsing. Lmao

That fb post got to her. Don't go posting a bunch of pics and shit strictly to make her jealous that makes you look bad. However one pic is good show her you're not hung up on her. Now don't answer her txt let her be the one to sit and think.

Thanks man I actually leave for vacation for 2 weeks, so I will check to see if she drops msgs here and there. I will let her chase me right?

You got it! Go on holidays put her out of your mind have fun pick up other girls, and if its and option for you get your buddies to tag you in pics having a good time, but ya let her chase you she was cold after you apologized so why should you jump and take her back as soon as she apologizes? Go out have fun and let her chase you.