| Been talking to a girl for a few weeks, she became extremely invested and was attracted to me, she then either got mad, or lost attraction when I sent her a teasing text:
Me: "you should really stop zoning out all the time, theres things to enjoy in the present."
Her: "if yur gunna try to change me, we can't really be close anymore"
Since that, her replies have been cold, and she no longer initiates convos as she once did.
So, I few of the experienced PUAs on here told me to do a 10day straight freeze out, no replies, not even reading her facebook messages (says "seen" or "sent" on her screen depending if I have read them or not), all was going well.
1 day in
Her: "im too lazy to watch the video you sent me" (funny meditation clip i sent her the dy before, which she knew i sent her the other day, but only read that day)
Her: "now let's see how long it takes until you "see" this message hahaha"
Her: "you have aprox ten minutes before i fall asleep"
I ignore her msgs and dont read em.
2days in
Her: "Butthead"
I dont read it.
Then around 1am, I fucking accidently clicked on her messages, and didnt quit fast enough, so now it will show that i read her messages. She was offline at the time.
Then today I posted a funny status on the college facebook page totally forgetting about her, which she has yet to see, but instead of making me look busy, it just looks like im ignoring her or playing games, i "seen" her msg, ignored it, then posted a status on a page which she is also a part of, and will most definitley see.
Why am I worried about whether or not a freeze out is appropriate?
She once told me, how when people figure out something about her life, a lot of them dont know how to handle it, or act like chodes and stop talking to her because of some little thing.
So, I don't want her to think im ignoring her because I dont want to be around someone like her.
I see her in about 3weeks in college again, I've been hanging out with her before, shes a cool girl.
Maybe im overthinking, because a freeze out did seem perfect until I remembered this. And until I accidently clicked on her messages LOL.
The point of the freeze out was to appear busy, as I was investing way more than she was investing back after the whole texting incident i mentioned in the beginning. I needed to appear like i have better shit to do, and now I feel as if it looks more like im playing fucking mind games with her.
Continue the freeze out? Or not?
Dont want to lose her, I want her to be back in the greenzone by the time school starts. I dont want her to give up.
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