Hey, just wanted to know. Last week I had 3 dates in 3 nights straight. One is a 7.5. She would get an 8 if she was a little heavier in the chest. I am trying to hook up with two other babes. How the hell do I date more than one girl and avoid going broke and without appearing cheap. How honest am I supposed to be with them about the others? And when I tell them, at what point do I do it.

In the past I usually stuck with the one I liked the most, but I am tired of getting burned and being left with nothing.

Hey Super Dave! I know what you mean, I had a date Sunday another or Wednesday and yet another confirmed for Friday. I wouldn't be surpised if I slide another one in there somewhere. I understand things cost money. Things I do to keep the cost down is have dates a my place watching movies, making her dinner, watching TV, etc. Other ideas are taking her to the mall, walk around downtown, go for a hike, invite her to workout with you, swimming (when warmer), Starbucks, Panera Bread (Coffee).

Okay now to address the question of how honest you should be. In my experience I find it helps to be very up front and honest. So for our first example let's say you meet a girl in a club or bar, and setup a date for Day 2. It's during that time I would express my feelings to her about how you are dating right now, but looking for something long term. Maybe its with her, maybe not, but you'll find out. Of course this will vary depending on what you want. You want to make sure you are well into building comfort before expressing this, maybe something like 3 hours of comfort built.

If she asks me a direct question about it I'll answer her directly at that time. So for instance if I'm in the early stages of comfort or late stages of attraction and she asks if I'm looking for a long time girlfriend I'll say yes, but she's going to have to be a special lady, and right now I'm still dating.

If she doesn't want to be involved let her go. I always tell the girls, "Look, if I get serious with someone I'll tell you. Likewise, if me and you get serious then I will commit to you." They want commitment but its more important that you are honest, and she'll appreciate it.

Hope this helps, sorry for the long post.

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I agree with jsmooth about having good comfort. Also build a little more intrigue about yourself. Get into the mindset that you are this amazing being and anywhere you go there's something great to discover. Many of my dates have been walks in the park where the trees seemed to give off a sense of surreal mystery and romance. And this includes evening dates, especially when a light fog surrounds the trees. BUT make sure you have enough comfort. Find out more about yourself first, what your passionate about etc. Then pass this energy along to the girl(s) your dating. Bring them into your world. It can be mutually satisfying.

Then once they see how great life feels when they're in your world you can just do casual things, and personally, I don't tell them that I'm dating others, unless they ask, then I just talk about it somewhere along the lines of what jsmooth said:

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Thanks guys, that’s a lot of good stuff. I defiantly have to work on some of my inner game. I still get feelings that people might think I am boring. Drives me crazy I think like that. But I have gotten better.

I like taking the honest approach, this way I don’t have to worry about getting my tires slashed. LOL I just hope it doesn't stop me from getting some.

Thanks again.