This is my question its gonna sound a bit lame but whatever. A few months ago I broke up with this girl I really liked it stung a bit. After that I did what any guy should do I got back in the game I really got back in the game I was picking up and getting #'s like crazy it was great. Then the other day I kinda had a realization (this is where its gonna sound lame) my bro and his gf came over she is a sweet girl. I got thinking as much as I like wheeling girls and getting #'s I wouldn't mind meeting a nice girl I could actually date. Honestly I don't really know where to start I've been out of the dating/relationship game for quite a while now that I really don't know how to get back in or where to even meet a girl like that. Running game has been fun but all I have to show from it is some good times and a phone full of #'s from girls that I don't care if I talk to again which isn't bad I had to rebound and get back in the game. Any tips or advice would be appreciated thanks!

Yo dude!

You're saying you've got a 'shit load of #'s' - and then you're saying you want to go out on a date with a nice girl.

I've got to be honest here - but, what the hell are you actually doing with those numbers - because that isn't game.

Getting a number isn't gaming a girl, so many people in the pick up community think that - the number is just a bridge to see her again at a different time, maybe at a different location. That's it.

What are you doing with all these girls numbers you've got?

-Zak

You should take up riding unicorns because that's where you find those girls...with the unicorns. Most women online are looking for relationships and most guys are looking for sex. Women can go anywhere to find sex. They tend to get upset when guys don't call them back.

You can meet a woman who wants a relationship online or at the grocery store, but relationships end. You have to make sure she wants something long term and isn't just trying to get a boyfriend to temporarily avoid slut shaming. You could go to church, if you believe in that kind of stuff, but I wouldn't recommend it. You should ask yourself why you even want a gf. Do you want to get married and have kids or do you just want to curb loneliness?

You have to make sure yo aren't supplicating when you find someone you want. Don't buy her flowers all the time and write her love poems. It makes you look like you are unworthy of having her. You get a gf the same way you get laid. You just keep them around more often and stop banging other chicks. *Yawn*

You can meet nice women anywhere, don't think that you have to go out to bars/clubs to meet them. Sometimes it happens at odd times and places. I have a dog and have met lots of women at the dog park, dog training classes and on walks....its nice because they usually come up to me to talk. I also have young nieces and nephews that I will take to the park. The only problem with this is most women you meet are either married or have kids! You may get lucky though and meet a babysitter. I have a friend that met his current girlfriend while they were each doing volunteer work. Meeting new people and having them introduce them to their friends helps is crucial as well. Just get yourself out there, if you get invited somewhere go! I also want to add that if you let your friends know that you are looking for a girl maybe they or their friends/girlfriends may try to set you up...this just happened to me, I have a blind date tomorrow!

I know that there's more to gaming then just getting a number but at the same time I am really not interested in dating a girl that I met at a club and all I had to do is approach run a bit of game and I up sleeping with her just my opinion but that's not a girl I care to be in a relationship with. I didn't sleep with every girl I #closed but I did contact each either by call or text but never really found any I cared to keep in contact with. I see your point hopefully you see where I am coming from. Thanks for your input I appreciate it

Lol but yeah man you're right. I am not lonely that I need a gf. I enjoyed being with my now ex we're both boxers had a lot in common and I wouldn't mind finding something like that again. As far as the flowers and lovey sort of things I've never been much for that flowers on her birthday or a special occasion little things like that nothing over the top though. Thanks for the advice I appreciate it!

Thanks for the advice you're totally right I've met plenty of girls at clubs but none I am interested in dating. What I am kinda looking for is exactly what you described meeting a nice girl say at a dog park instead of a loud ass nightclub. Have fun on your date!

You guys do understand that "club girls" don't live in the house all day and only leave to go to clubs....right?

You get that they go shopping?

And buy groceries?

And go to parks?

And go on adventures with their friends?

And have lives?

And only go to the clubs a couple nights a week, a small portion of their actual lives?

You guys get that....right?

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I understand the original poster pain. Here's a list of places I think are good to meet women who are not club party girls.

Beach

Yoga classes

Book Store

In the financial district of your city

Plays

Concerts

Anywhere people congregate.