Long story short, I broke up with my gf about 2 years ago after a short but intense relationship (about 3 months).

We always maintained a bit of contact (some FB chat every couple of months) and we both dated other people of course, although we never presented our present lovers to each-other.

Now life is kind of joining us together because of common interests, and for a while it looked like she was really into me again (late night texts, etc), but this happened exactly when she started dating another guy about 2 months ago.

Now I'm getting mixed signals, in a way, she calls to hang out with me and have lunch/coffee/etc. In other way, she keeps posting her FB page with stuff where the other guy is present. She never admitted to me she had a new bf, but then again, I didn't exactly asked.

I don't get it, does she honestly just wants to be friends with me, or is she just having second thoughts?

Dude its been two years and she is posting pics with another dude....sounds like she just really wants to be friends. If your ok with this then go have coffee, lunch etc. with her. If you not I would stop doing that shit because judging from your post you still have feelings and your only going to open up what should be a healed wound. GL

2 years can mean nothing. The only ex-gf that I still meet up with (very seldom) is from almost 10 years ago and she is still clearly into me... in fact she told me that some time ago and I've been avoiding her a bit since then.

The fact that the GF from 2 years ago I was talking about is in the "honeymoon" period of her new relationship can explain many things and that she feels in love with the new guy... that's not what I'm putting in to question here. And I don't wonder if she is trying making me jealous by posting pictures with the guy, that's normal for me. What is not normal for me, is calling me and texting me to go out with her when she is getting into a new relationship.

But if she was completely over me she wouldn't be sending me texts at 1 am in the morning telling me to listen for this new song she felt in love with nor she would be posting in FB about something we had together, only 1 month ago after she already started seeing the new guy, altough that part stoped now.

Still, as a men I cannot just find it rational that someone changes her feelings completly in just 1 month from still having some passion to absolutely just being friends... then again, girl's minds work in mysterious ways.

here's a scenario for you,

you hookup with this 9 at a club one day, she is really cool, you have a whole bunch in common, great to sleep with, great to hang out with, all around great girl, for what ever reason you guys split up

fast forward two years later, you've still kept in contact with this girl, you still chat a bit, you guys start clicking better now either because she did something cool that you guys connected on well, or because something happened in your life to make you seek out new people to be around (maybe a fight with a friend), so now you're chatting it up with this 9 from 2 years ago, but you also now have an amazing new girlfriend, she is also great, great in bed, cool girl, everything with her is still fresh and new

do you think you might possibly be able to control yourself enough to actually want to hang out with the 9 without sleeping with her and just be friends because she's actually cool? or would your motive after all that time absolutely must be to either sleep with her or make her feel bad for being your friend by flaunting your new relationship in her face?

Well, that does quite some sense, it's true.

I would personally not do that the other way around - after all I would presume that my new GF would not be cool with me starting to have lunches with my old GF, specially when starting a new relationship with her.

But it's just probable that my EX is being more open minded than me in this... which is cool actually.