I know others have posted about this before but can't seem to get anything going. I get a lot of views but only one reply so far (just started the account 2 days ago). Thing is, I also tailor messages to the users I reply to and use quirky messages or conversation starters. Still mostly nada. Maybe I'm picky though but so far I'd say 80% of the women on there I wouldn't message in a million years. Shitty thing is maybe most guys agree with me as it seems the 20% that are at least a 7/10 or above reply very selectively. Also, I'm in Toronto which is known as being as tough as NYC as girls think they can have anyone they want.

I attached a link to my profile....I don't think I'm an eyesore at least and have a nice body and a good attitude. Not sure what else to do besides maybe get betters photos sometime. I know there's been a few guys on here before that had luck....are you guys super gorgeous with ripped abs or is there some other technique? Thinking about getting rid of it...had better luck on POF (even though it's sketchy) and the girls seem better looking. Some of the chicks I've seen so far on okcupid would make even Roseanne seem like a hottie haha

Damn tried to attach a URL but wasn't allowed since I'm a new user. Had to attach a few screenshots of most of the profile

The problem is, you take self pics of yourself, this shows that you don't have social life.
Also, don't take pics on bathroom!
"I like the winter coat" -> this is begging for attention, don't do this!

Get social pics where you can show to people that you are sociable and not a creepy guy that might rape someone, not that i'm saying that you are but girls might think of it that way.
But as you know, on internet looks matter so screw internet and do it live! I would say that internet is for pussies but actually it's more hard than what people think.

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And the website has fake women on it! Guaranteed. Just write about it in another thread.

YOU SIR ARE A GENIUS......I totally agree with you. Thats great advice...except for the internet is for pussies. I would use the internet to supplement my game outside my roof. Who cares if they dont answer? just keep on moving.

I don't meet women online but I know a thing or two about writing.
And ignore the two dummies who said it's for pussies. Just stay true to yourself.

Your profile is as vague as you can make it. If you're a woman, why the fuck would you message you?

1. Music/movies/books/art:

Vague and boring. I still have no idea what you're into. What you wrote is:

"I have a background in film, music, art. I can't live without them."

Don't you have an opinion? A favorite genre? A favorite movie? A favorite author? Favorite artist? Favorite era of art? Do you play music? You answered it as a yes or no question:

-"Are you anyway related to music/movies/books/art?"
-"Yes, I am related to music/movies/books/art."

2. Adventure

Once again, nothing to grab onto.
It's "look forward to"
How do you adventure? What captivates you about adventuring? Write some soul shit here. Adventuring is an easy topic.

3. Sports/Activity

Nothing to grab onto.
Even if you have no connection with sports whatsoever, you can write that in a creative way. You can use sport as an easy metaphor. What do you do in your life that you're passionate about? Perhaps something competitive? Think of everything you do throughout the day and think of it as a sport. Write two sentences, add an adjective and an adverb in there and leave it.

4. Animals

Nothing to grab onto. Insects are weird. Getting to that part of your post I immediately thought that you live with cockroaches.
The section is better but take it off. You're actually saying a specific prototype of an object that you like.
Put a creative tongue to it and give more details.

5. Food

Nothing to grab onto. You pretty much wrote nothing. You're expected to be a bad cook, and everyone appreciates good food. What's something specific that you can cook? What cuisine do you like? Is there a local restaurant you enjoy? Is there a certain tradition you have where you eat something every Friday? This section is a little more important since you can put some specific local spots- it's more personal and is more likely to catch attention. A girl can see that you enjoy some place and hit you up saying it would be great to meet there sometime.

6. Cars

You don't enjoy working on engines and you don't know much about cars. If you have nothing to write, don't bullshit it. I don't even know why this section is relevant but write about how you get around and don't push it further.

Get rid of the 7. There is absolutely no point to you writing that.


You seem like an average boring guy. Use some wit and detail. Think of why a girl should message you. Try to stand out from everyone else.

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I also got a little frustrated in okcupid so I decided to create a fake girl profile with pictures of a friend who is a 7 or 8, and some text that took me 3 minutes to write.

That profile that to my opinion is completely dull and brainless receives around 15 messages a day, most messages are not tailored but some of them are, and the profiles of guys in average are much better than the profile of girls there...

So don't take it personally the competition there is huge. They have no time to answer all the mails they get and they get a self esteem boost with every mail they receive. I think one of the most common reasons people enter into relationships is because of the fear of being alone. Receiving 15 mails a day of people who wants to meet you is enough to vanish that fear.

I'm starting to develop the opinion that we all as men should start to raise our standards and stop giving attention to people who does not deserve it.

I have not read the replies.

It's your pics that are ruining it

Not only do you need to get a makeover (dress well, cool hair cut, good grooming) but you also need to have pics that you don't take of yourself.

Have a night out with your mates after your makeover, then select your favs pics where you are having most fun and didn't even know that the pic was taken of you.

I also think pic quality is important too.

Ever seen those club pics from the club's photographer? The difference is night and day.

This sticking point can be resolved within one weekend and a little bit of money

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Yes, when you already got the girl interested, otherwise internet sucks for gaming unknown girls, they reject you before saying anything.

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Yeah this was just one portion of the profile...the other attachments didn't load. haha I actually do work on engines - I'm restoring a classic motorcycle. I just didn't want to act like I was showing off or something. t I do see your point though I'll try editing them. Also yeah I've heard the photo advice before too...will probably get some better action shots. I'm getting a bit more interest now but the way these sites are organized really perturbs me. Average looking women get the idea they're like Stacy Keibler or something....we should boycott this somehow. I mean after looking at the other guys on the site some of these ladies should be grateful I'm even writing them. Just don't really get why someone would view you just to let it hang...it must mean they found me attractive at first but the rest of the profile or pics killed it. I'll tweak it a bit though

it sounds weird but I did the same thing on POF before but used the perfect man profile. Took the highest rated dude off of hotornot, added in the fact that he had a great career, etc and then waited. He really didn't get a lot more interest than I did on there (maybe 10% more replies than me). In fact, I even tried to experiment with it and the hottest girls didn't get back to this fake profile either. I swear most of them just want the ego boost or just do it for fun.

The pics need to change for sure, I need more action shots...I had a feeling about this when I put them up.

nah I definitely don't need a makeover though, I think most men nowadays look effeminate and the reason I've got attractive women in the past was because of my look. (This was in person though.) And the clothes I wear are pretty expensive. I suppose I could throw some gel in my hair though. I think these dudes who wear ed hardy/tapout shirts or get fro hawks are a dime a dozen, at least where I am.

This is because its all about your profile not your pictures. Women care about looks but not as much as us

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Just because you wear expensive clothes (which one's definition of being expensive is subjective) really think you could add 2/3 points to yourself that will in turn frantically increase your results with the opposite sex ,off and online.

I could take you shopping now, and I would get you better fitting clothes, a sexy hairstyle, some grooming work, and could really change things for the better.

Your clothes/style in your pics is very bland in my opinion and is such a shame you feel that you have done all you can looks wise which I disagree.

Think most people just don't like change. Comfort zones and all that.

Goodluck anyway.

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I'm definitely open to changing things, just as long as I don't end up looking like a metrosexual dude who shops at Armani exchange or something. Will explore these options as well. Any good sites for suggestions? Or just a Men's magazine