I really hate to post a oneitis based 'does she like me?' threads, but this girls a fucking 11! So its best to be sure I think.
Aaaanyway, girl at work, we chat sometimes, she always smiles at me and maintains eye contact when we talk etc. But yesterday when we were chatting, I was standing adjacent to her and I put my hand on her shoulder closer to me, she then leaned towards me a bit. I then moved my hand to the next shoulder creating a half-hug effect. She leaned into it more. However the thing is she's been really tired recently coz she's been working double shifts so she leans on anything (tables, equipment etc). So was this an ioi or was I just a leaning post?

Again I know it might sound like a stupid question but I'm one of those guys where it would take a woman to be married to me for 20 years before I knew she was into me lol.

Thanks guys

I'm new to this stuff but even I know that if the girl is keen to actively lean in/touching you like that then there is some interest on her part

Ok, update! Earlier I was busy unloading a lorry (I work in a supermarket) and she's walking at the other end of the warehouse. She smiles at me, I smile and wave, she then stops as if to get my attention. I then start walking towards her, giving it all the 'hey, you alright?' stuff as I walk. She walks to meet me and comes in close. For some reason I outstretched my arms a little and put my hands on her waist (actually maybe a little higher, round her rib area). She doesn't seem to have a problem with this, and this lasts about 3 or 4 seconds. We finish conversation and part ways.

Now, she def interested right? Lol

YES!!! definitely, just keep escalating with touch and organise to meet with her outside of work just the two of you. She is clearly interested so just keep escalating

Hey man...you're not going to get her if you continue to question what seems to be positive signs. Honestly dude, I always encourage guys to stop seeking out ioi's. Its a bit silly honestly; anyone confident enough to pull women isn't waiting around for signs. They are just going after what they want despite what it sounds like. So hell yeah that was a ioi; because you are a confident guy and women do things like this to you all the time, don't second guess yourself ever.

2nd..

She's not an 11, there is no such things; placing her on a pedastol isn't going to get you anywhere. The only 11 is you, because you are a man, and as a man you hold the highest position of living things on earth.

Joey

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You are just looking for excuses to not go for it. See if she wants to hang out sometime after work. Worst case she says no, it's better than wasting time before you ask her which will guarantee a no.

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I guarantee that if this girl was a 6 you'd just be going along, instinctively knowing she was into you. The hard part about trying to get with a girl out of your league is that you question and second guess every little thing she says or does, especially if your confidence is low. You'll be thinking "The fuck, how could she be into ME???" and you assume everything she says or does has some sort of secret double meaning that you don't understand.

It's really simple - If she lets you touch her or get near her and SHE actively seeks YOUR attention then you're doing damn good. This is harder to do in person, but if you're texting just pretend she's a girl you've been with who's more in your league and you don't feel nervous or antsy around. Say the same things to the 11 that you'd say to the lesser girl and it should work out.

F CLOSE! Are we allowed to say that word in the forums? And by the way, if you aren't sure if its an IOI or not, be the man and assume it is one