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Long story short saw the girl walking went up to her cold, talked to her and got her number. I called her the next day, left a voice mail she texted me a little later. Go back and forth have a date set up for a few days later. Date goes great we have good conversation I take her back to her place and we kiss. Text back and forth throughout the week and last Friday we hang out again, I meet up with her we go out to eat everythings great, drop her off and we make out again. We text back and forth throughout the weekend then this happens asking her for the third date
Me: Ask to hang out on Monday
Her: I can't do Monday
Me: oh ok how about tuesday?
Her: this week is is busy for me let me let you know
Me: oh alright, if you don't want to hang out or something like that you can just tell me
Her: I had plans Monday, and a doctor appt on tuesday and a test
So give it two days hit her back, we talk for 2 hours. I give it another 2 days and hit her back she is studying says she will hit me back the next day. Never get a text, wait 2 days ask her to hang out on Tuesday (tomorrow) never get a response it's now been 4 days with no response, I haven't said anything since. Is this a lost cause? Or should I try again?
I hinted at this in another thread I recently responded to, but this is a perfect example of what I was talking about. You were way too anxious and defensive asking for a date.
If you just saw her on Friday, why the rush to see her on Monday. Even worse, your second option was the very next day - Tuesday. This comes across as desperation and falling too hard/too fast.
On top of that, you implied concern and anxiety by saying "it's ok if you don't want to hang out".
Let's be honest...it WOULDN'T BE OK with you...people who use that line are just saying it because they are anxious to find out why you won't see them and feel a little desperate.
It's not the end of the world though...give it a rest for awhile so that she gets the desperation/anxiety you displayed out of her mind. If you had good chemistry before that, maybe she will remember the good things and initiate a text with you.
I give it 50/50 at this point though, so prepare yourself for the worst.
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