Posted this is another subforum. Was surprised to see I didn't get any responses in 24 hours.

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Saw her a few days ago at the mall, thought she was cute, came back to the mall today and got the number close (no I did not go to the mall just for that, lol. I was getting my laptop repaired and went to pick it back up)

She takes a hell of a long time to respond to texts. Like 30 minutes to 1 hour. Texts have always been my downfall since the girl has the opportunity to control the pace of the conversation. I keep trying to convince myself that she's taking long because it's a Saturday night and she's had a long day at work; however, the other side is telling me that she's just not interested. In the past 5 hours we've exchanged 5 texts:

Me: Hey, it's ___
Her: Hello
Me: Lmao what's up, ____
Her: Chilling
Me: Oh that's cool... Where're you from? I'm from ____
Her: _____


Your thoughts, please?

Here are my thoughts, because I actually just learned this lesson recently.

You shouldn't rely on texting. Conversational texting in general is an action that takes place between friends. The chance of texting building attraction between a guy and a girl is slim because of how impersonal is. She could be texting 5 other people other than you who in her mind is 'that-one-guy-I-gave-my-number-to-at-work', trying to have a conversation with her.

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Alright, so I'll try to give her a call then. But what if she's at work? I assume she works till 9 p.m. since that's when the mall closes. That's pretty late -- and like that, the whole day is gone.

I also prefer to call but:
Your first text is the most average text a guy can think of. You're not being interesting and you're not giving her much to respond to. What did you want her to say? "HEYY!! I was making some fries today and was imagining that one of them is your little Johnson." If you decide to text her and need an opening text, use something from the time you met. Listen to everything a girl says.
1. She'll like that you remembered something about her,
2. You can give her something to respond to,
3. You'll stand out from 99% of the guys that send "Hey, it's Tyrone."
It can be any little thing she might have said or you might have noticed about her. Just hook onto it and say something clever and adequate about it, but also something she can respond to. That's why it's important to actually have a conversation during your first interaction.
What are you giggling at and why is lmao in your lexicon? You're saying the same boring shit. Even the most obvious PUA text of, "What trouble are ya getting yourself into tonight?" would work better. Then answer the question of where you are trying to get with texting her "Lmao what's up" I'm glad she responded with a nonchalant "chilling." If I was her id I would have told her to delete your number.
Yeah it's the most awesome thing that she's chilling. You're absolutely right. If you don't know what to say, once again, at least don't say the most obvious thing that everyone else says.
Why would you ask her where she is from? Do you even care? You're just texting this girl because you don't have much else to do, with a hopeful opportunity to have sexual relations with her. At least don't come at her with THAT much dishonesty. "I'm just making conversation." No, you're being a dumbass. You're asking her a closed-ended question; after which, you assume that it doesn't matter where she is from because you decide that she gives a shit about where you're from. Great. I'm glad she can see through the placid bullshit you tried sending her and decided to not waste time.
If you can't turn the texting around, which you can, just search the forum for texting game, roll the dice and give her a call. Assuming she works 4-5 days, you might catch her on her day off. Then hope she picks up and just ask her out- don't pull another 21 questions. Don't put all your chips up for grabs either- she's just one girl. It works out, good. It doesn't work out, good. You should have other shit to worry about.

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This was a totally perfect answer. Exactly what I need.

The reason I said "lmao" before I asked "what's up" is because I thought it was funny how we met. I had to describe her to her manager who was operating the cashier at the time. The manager winked at me and got the whole Wendy's involved and everyone started going "Oooo!" I just that was funny. I was actually smiling as I sent that text away. As to why it's in my lexicon? Should I remove it? Never thought it was bad. I am, after all, only 18 years old.

I believe the primary reason this conversation has been so mundane is due to the fact that there was no time for a conversation when I met her. It was just about getting the number and allowing her to get back to work. Do you reckon there is a shock factor involved here? I reckon it's pretty rare to be asked for your number over the counter. Like she's questioning my motives?

Another thing worth noting is that I think she's actually younger than me. She's gotta be in the 16-18 age range. I have noticed that whenever I deal with girls of this age they tend to be very unwilling to open up and aren't as easy to crack. Older girls, however, are so much easier to deal with. Have any of you experienced such a phenomenon?

When I do decide to call her, it is my understanding that I DO NOT leave a voicemail. Is this still common practice? How many missed calls do I give it before I give up? How much space between no-answers?

Thanks again.

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What's with this infatuation with texting? Stop doing it!! It doesn't work. You should only text to initiate or confirm a time/place to get together.

If you absolutely must text...definitely don't start with "Hey it's _____." That's the weakest opener ever, and she probably doesn't even remember who the hell you are. You could have used something like:
"Hey, I'm trying to text this sexy girl from Wendy's, but I think she gave me a fake number."
...or...
(Within 30 seconds of getting her number) "Could I get a #4 with no pickles and a large Dr. Pepper? Thanks!"

If you're not going to be witty on the first text, then what's the point?

Other things:
-"lol" "lmao" "roflol" are signs of humor. If nothing funny was said, it makes you sound nervous.
-Don't ask a girl where she's from or any other "fact" questions. That's a quick way to end a conversation.
-Those one word answers usually mean you're dead in the water. You should lead off with something really funny or something really awesome.

PS: To answer your other questions
-16 year olds open up just like 18 year olds and 30 year olds. She'll respond to awesomeness. She won't respond to lameness...regardless of age.
-There is no shock factor. Attractive women get asked out all the time. I promise this was not the first or last time she'll be giving out her number while at work.
-Call her if you want...but if she doesn't answer or return your call, then it's time to move on.