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Hi guys,
So I've recently returned after a male transformation (lost a lot of weight, got into shape and new wardrobe).
I social quite a bit now (3 days a week, bars, pub quizes, social events) and while I have become more confident, I have a block. Basically I start strong when starting a conversation, but I tend to lose the momentum mid way through a convo. And obviously I don't want to resort to the "I have to now ask them questions, like what do you do". What do I do, read up on more stories to tell?
Also, I've been told that my natural, not-trying too hard approach is attractive but I cannot help but think this is boring and I need to be more playful, cheeky etc. Do I run the risk of meeting someone who is attracted to the more PUA-side of me, rather than my natural self?
When you start to notice yourself about to ask those "interview" questions, stop yourself and say "Check this out," and start telling an interesting story about yourself. Makes it seem "natural"
I'm an introvert too but I can also be one hell of an extrovert... Just say whatever the fuck is going on in your mind. If you're like me, there is alot going on up there lol