Here's the story I was hoping I could get some feedback on. Last summer I met this girl I really liked things were great. Then a few months later the wheels fell off. I took it pretty hard I don't usually take a break up hard but this one happened at a really bad time. But I bounced back she's since been chasing her ex posting mopy sh-t on facebook. I've been going out picking up girls getting #'s what not its been great.(Since I stopped talking to that other girl I've gotten 47 #'s all real). But at the same time I wouldn't mind meeting a nice girl I could actually date. My club game/day game is spot on when I am just looking to pick up but when I meet a girl that I think damn I'd like to see her again it just doesn't work. For example I had a pair of $350 sunglasses get stolen. So I went to a sunglasses shop for a new pair this gorgueas tall curvy Italian girl is working there. She helped me find a pair we talked for about 1/2 hour then I made a rookie mistake of not looking at the price tag they were $400. I had to put them back she didn't mind we talked for anoth 20min or so then I left. I thought man I'd like to see that girl again. I guess my question is how would you ask a girl like that out or find out if she's single? For the past few months after the break up I've been mainly club gaming and I kinda forgot how to ask a girl out in a normal setting.

Your case seems to be regarding “Asking an employee out while she’s at work” rather than “how to ask a girl out in a normal setting.”

In your recent situation, you just need to be careful about making her look a certain way in front of her colleagues as well as other patrons. Having said that, you can lay a lot of great groundwork during this interaction without coming across as overtly hitting on somebody.

Try getting information out of her by insinuating certain things like: you love snowboarding (for example).

What you might say: “I like these sunglasses, think I could snowboard in them?” (you can say it sarcastically or for real, just get a reaction)

If she says, “I don’t know” then move on, if she says something that proves she is a boarder, then expand on it by asking where shes goes etc. Using little pieces of info like this makes this rather vanilla sales pitch convo, into a little more of a personal one. You now both know that you both like snowboarding.

When you leave, drop a business card (write your cell # if its not on there) and don’t say anything like “well I hope to see you again.” Leave it a little vague but flash her a smile and get out of there.

OR

Ask her (if she doesn’t give you one) for HER business card so you can “ask if I have any questions.”

Of course, this is all predicated on the IOIs you receive. If you’ve had enough of a connection, then it wont really matter exactly how you go about it, as long as you just DO IT. The biggest mistake people make is making a 10% situation into 0% by not taking any action. Leaving a card opens the door, asking for her card opens the door. Creating rapport keeps this door open and the lights on, go for it man.

Thanks for the advice I appreciate it! There's been a couple times I've asked a girl out while she's at work ive always had posituve results. My style for a # close like that is confident and direct but keep it discreet out of respect for her being at work.this particular situation she was working by herself so it made it easy to talk to her. I am not really sure on any ioi's other then we talked for so long. We were talking about sunglasses that started to die out so I asked her if you don't mind me asking where's your accent from? That got a whole other convo going. After I was like damn I think I've made some progress and was gonna my usual routine confidently directly ask for her #. But I didn't think that was the right approach I thought about asking her out aome other way but really couldn't think of anything. That's when I realized how long its been since I've asked a girl out on an actual date. I was like damn my game definitely needs some work in this area lol. I've never really been a fan o leaving my # just because I always feel its the guys job to make the 1st move.I thought about getting her card asking her what her favorite Italian restraunt is then saying write your # here I'll call you tmrw or the next day we'll go out to whatever restraunt tues night. Like I said Iam not sure of any particular ioi's other then we talked for almost an hour.

You just ask. Say "hey what's your number maybe if you're interesting enough we can hang out some time. Could always use some new interesting friends/people in my life." or something to that effect.

Most of the time if you've presented yourself in the right way, she will either tease back over you making her prove herself ("if youre interesting enough") or just give you her number. This is also good because it's very rare for a guy to go up to an attractive girl and say hey, you might be good looking, but can you keep me entertained? She will be all over you.

I rely on text game more than others just to bridge the gap and stay in the back of a girls mind. Just make sure youre busting her balls every once and a while and not sucking up and chances are you'll get to see her again.

I myself rarely go for party girls, and this works very well for me (at least with 9s and 10s). The most important thing is to have the mindset that you're almost too good for them, but don't verbalize or make it obvious you think that. It's a mindset you don't really learn overnight unfortunately.

I like that # close its confident and direct but not real pushy and it would work good especially because I am fairly new in town. As we're talking kinda mention that I am new around here then close with that I think should yield positive results. I don't go for party girls unless I am at a club looking to pick up but even I don't go them all that much. 1st time I talked to this girl I kinda busted her balls a bit she was saying her dads BMW was stolen she's like $250.000 car. I was like its no wonder you can afford a car like that $400 for sunglasses she laughed it was a lot smoother then I just made it sound. We kinda went back and forth like that a bit. But when I am at a club its full on bad boy jerk game and it works. That's what I did with this girl but I toned it down quite a bit. So I think when I see her again I'll run some game like that throw in the fact I am new around town then after some more convo use your close.