This happened to me in the past before.

You've already done the naughty. Yet sometimes they will rouse your D then make up some BS excuse why they cant finish the job. Can anyone else relate? Like it makes sense if you've never done it with her before, but after you've done it a few times why do they go... backwards?


- blowjob but no sex One girl I'm talking to was giving me a damn blow job, but I wanted real sex. She said she hasnt shaved and she felt gross that day. I'm like you said that two days ago and we still did it. (Makes no sense) I tried not to show that I was frusrated.

- Suddenly pull back Another girl, well this was on SPAM. We've already done naughty stuff. She played with hers and I played with mine. But the other day after getting me all wild and crazy, she was like yawning, seemed tired, then didn't want to touch herself. She repeated herself that it was because she's not confident in how she looks......... she said this multiple times. But I call BS. Since we've gone way further last week. I dont know why she just pulled back all of a sudden.



Im thinking the best remedy is to give them some space so that they can miss you and remember what a great guy you are. Punish them for bad behaviour. Im not sure why this happens. Whats the best way to remedy it? Thank you guys.


ps: I was a little pissed because ithe excuses didnt seem legit. But theres a HUGE party this weekend and Im looking forward to gaming new girls.

Ok, the SPAM shit, you mean like "sex" thru SPAM? Who gives a shit about that. Not even worth commenting on. The second part happens. Yea, it is annoying, but sometimes it is what it is. What works a lot for me is I will straight up tell the girl I do not like intimacy to be used as a reward/punishment and that I'm not ok with that period. Works well.

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Well the one through SPAM, we're going to meet up later. But it's like I didnt get the feeling she was witholding her sex as a way to ensure me going over there. It's like we did wilder things befor,e yet for some reason this time she didnt feel like it.

Also with the other girl. You mentioned "it happens sometimes." Im trying to figure out why it happens. Because I dont want her to make a habit of saying, "Oh I didnt shave" and then no sex. She said it before and we still did it. But a few nights ago, that was the only time she really pulled back. Im not sure what I should do if it happens next time. Really punches your ego, especially after everythings going great with her.

Wait a minute, a girl gave you a blowjob, otherwise known as "an act of god", and you were upset?

What drugs you on bro? Lie back, take it, then go to sleep for fucks sake! Preferably after she makes you a sandwich. Goodness, talk about 'first world problems'.

Second situation, don't stress dude, girls do this, they are emotional nutters and can be all over the place. Just be laid back, don't be needy and let her come to you.

But really? Angry about a blowjob, fuck man! Slap yourself.

I agree with the previous comments. Girls do this. Maybe she is just not in the mood. You already got a blowjob man, save penetration for next time!

They just could not be in the mood, or the sex wasn't that good (just being honest). Just because they've done it before doesn't mean everytime they'll want to.

just try to keep your cool, maybe she is actually just self conscious about not showering or something and doesn't want to tell you, or actually is getting a bit of that few day razor burn rash down there around the cooch and thinks you would think less of her, just have to be understanding of these kind of things and try to keep the frustration down and find a non judgmental solution around her problem that will show her you absolutely don't care and don't judge her for those kind of things
this would be a situation where qualification would be helpful for you, criticism and judgement can lead to resentment, think of it like you are a mirror, and when you get upset or frustrated with someone and do something in reaction to that, they are more likely to get upset and frustrated with you, and react to you, the less sure the person is of themselves, the more reaction

so instead of calling bs out of frustration and making her feel frustrated with you, you could instead re-frame the situation, give her the ideal you would like her to live up to instead (something for her to qualify to, set your standards) and see if she takes the bait, if she takes the bait, make her feel good and reassure her she meets your standards

for example,
''really? you seemed super confident last time and the way you blah blah was so hot, you stuck me as some sort of sexual goddess type, what happened to that?''

you can really go any direction you want, but the emphasis is on helping her to reach and standard that you would like her to meet and encouraging her to meet an expectation through giving that expectation and positive association and rewarding her with validation once she actually strives to meet that expectation (show her acceptance for meeting your standard)

if she is indifferent to you, that is when de-validation works better, and to do that, you can break rapport with her but instead of being upset at her, still keep and just focus on other things rather then her, so for example if she doesn't care what so ever what you think about her, don't validate her until she seeks approval and the breaking rapport would be more like teasing then getting upset with her

''is your vagina broken today? ''

but in the long run, you will get more people cooperating when you give them something to live up to with the emphasis that they can be that, rather then making them aware they are not living up to standards
just trying to keep your cool more and be a little more patient would leave you in a great spot, freezing a girl out who is really into you but starting to take you for granted can work ok too but it's more something that helps a lot when you want to add new girls to the mix rather then relying on it as a way to get you girls, it just sometimes works out like that, and a lot of the time freezing girls out or becoming negative can actually have them fall off, rather then put them back on the team

just have to find more girls so this sort of stuff doesn't bother you, when you know you can get laid at any time but are meeting new girls just to experience what they are like because you like being around girls, how would your behavior differ? lets say you had every girls number in the world that you found attractive already but and they all wanted to hang out with you but only some wanted to sleep with you, would you get mad when they didn't give it up? would you get bored?, would you just meet other girls? would you see old girls that you are already sleeping with? what would you do?

anyways, the world's your oyster, good luck