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It is not approach anxiety, I talk to girls out of the blue no issue. I just feel that since so many sources say college game is based on social circle, I am not breaking into those social circles and I am not forming them and that is limiting me there. While in the real world you don't need it to get laid, in college it seems like all advice on here and RSD points towards telling you to turn to that method to get laid.
Just arrived in my college town though so I will update you on results.
Hey there Paramount21, I don't believe we've met before so please do ask any questions about anything that might not come across well in my following post. I'm really happy that you're looking into college game as it's such a fantastic opportunity to expand your skills and quickly! I'm actually slightly jealous of your position.
You have a great point in what you've said. The nature of University (or College) is heavily social based. I'm sure you'll agree with me, that achieving great things at University (sex wise) is much much harder if you're socially inept.
There is a reason that many products endorse the whole social aspect as key to College game. It would be unwise to simply disregard it and/or find a better way to get girls. I'm sure you know that though. Let's be honest, most people in College except people to be social etc. There are some exceptions of course but the ones that arn't usually have far deeper issues that College.
My alternative for you is, to concentrate on increasing your social/conversational skills. Perhaps even taking a step back from PUA and getting to meet new people just for friendship sake.
Now, I'm not sure what level you're at but if you feel you're able to hold a conversation with just about anyone then please do ignore the above as it does not relate to you. Instead, take the opportunity to talk to everyone, yes everyone, at your college, both male & female.
From personal experience, I achieved greater things at University when I expoited this one factor. Concurrently I used the time to also increase other contributing factors that could sway the decision between just friends and more. These included, my dress sense, being confortable with women, knowing how to escalate and read social queue's to progress (only experience will help with that one), my bodylanguage etc.
To answer your question more directly, talking to almost everyone you meet in college will aid you in many ways from potential good friend, lay, experience which in turn leads to more opportunities such as invites to events, house parties, introductions to new people etc. Essentially, you can call it networking.
A fraternity only increases your chances for sex with social conditioning. The parties are meant to be crazy, with hookups to beer pong to getting soo wasted, last night was a blur etc. However you can achieve a lot of great things from one night stands to fuck buddies to threesomes just by putting yourself out there and taking opportunities.
In College, you are responsible for how others react to you. If you're finding it difficult to get similiar results at home, take a step back and observe why. The variables are endless. Perhaps you're coming across too strongly, girls in College expect to experiment, try new experiences, be crazy etc. Though the question being, are you being the guy she can do that with?
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