What are some of the safest bf destroyers? I feel like sometimes if you push a bf destroyer thats too harsh you sound really insecure, it becomes bf bashing and can alert her to "he didnt need to say that, i think he's saying that cuz he's jealous."

Also do bf destroyers work on guys she's seeing constantly / other competitors? I havent used bf destroyers in so long, I never saw them as an essential part of my game but getting back into it and seeing the pros and cons of using them.

You don't need boyfriend destroyers to get laid.

Don't even consider using them if the girl hasnt mentioned her boyfriend. Even if she uses the "I have a boyfriend" defence, you still need to find out if she's telling the truth, shit-testing you or just lying because she doesn't like you.

Once you have established 100% she has a boyfriend, Straw-man technique is your best bet.

Thanks. When I see some BF Destroyers, Im like wow that just sounds really angry and insecure over nothing.

Yup, I would only use bf destroyers if Im sure she has a bf. Otherwise, just change the subject and get back to talking to her.

Im getting back into pu after a long break. Ill look up straw man technique.

One of my good friends has a very effective one. When the dreaded, "I have a boyfriend" line comes up. Say something like, "Sweet...can he watch??".

I've used it a few times and the response has been a laugh and positive reaction.

If you really think about it, it's kinda terrible (on her part). She is laughing over the fact that you are having sex with her in front of her boyfriend! Give it a shot and see how it works out for you.

I agree with Hunter_Foxe on both: the fact that you don't need a BF destroyer to get laid, and strawman.

Strawman is generally a good thing to do for any social dynamics.

Nonetheless for me, it depends on the situation. I try to not seduce girls with boyfriends, mainly because I don't need to get it in that badly that I'm willing to break people up. Yeah, there's the whole argument that if she's willing to cheat on him she obviously doesn't like him that much and blahblahblahblah, which I agree with, but I don't ever want to be on the other side of that situation.

If I hear the "I have a boyfriend" at some point, I say:

"That's chill."

I try to drift from the topic. Once I'm off of it, I keep the seduction. If she brings him up, I strawman it, then play on her imagination by projecting the two of us together. (I think you might be able to find this under strawman as well) Nonetheless, don't mention the boyfriend until she mentions it, and try to stay off of the topic.

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I was looking up terms in the pua dictionary online and I read through the one for boyfriend destroyer. I realized I had recently done this aggressive technique without even realizing I was doing it, and there were consequences. I'm both amazed at my level of instinctive game and also disgusted with myself a bit for doing it in the first place. At least with the knowledge i am gaining here and other places, the next time I get to that xroads I'll have a choice and be aware of what is happening.

Best boyfriend destroyer: be better than her BF.

BF destroyers are largely BS though.

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It also depends on whether it's just in the pick up phase or if you want to take a girl that you know, who has a bf.

If you know a girl you can usually find ways to suggest that the guy she is seeing is not in line with what she says she likes, or wants, in her life. It's a typical persuasion technique, that of internal consistency. It's also, incidentally how the Korean military would get intel form American POWs.

For example, a girl I liked started seeing an older guy, she'd often mentioned how she is a girl who loves to go out and live life out of the house. In one conversation I asked if he takes her out much. Another conversation I asked if she ever went dancing with him. Before long she started saying to me how the guy isn't a long term prospect and such.

I agree with the other posts though. Stay away from girls in LTRs, plenty of them that are available, and no need to talk about a boyfriend, if it comes up, move along.

What if she asks you " Do you have a girlfriend?" Even tho this is not talking about her bf, its on the same lines of conversation? Would you just answer directly? or just switch the topic so that she doens't know?

Times when I was in a committed relationship, I never cheated and never approached women with the intent of seducing them. Therefore if a girl asks, personally I would tease her, saying something similar to her trying to be my girl or that she can be my girl for tonight only if she makes me breakfast tomorrow morning. Maybe something more sexual, depending on the place, mood, and girl.

I would be completely comfortable directly saying that I don't have a girlfriend if the situation depends on it.


If you're trying to seduce a woman while you are in a committed relationship, stop it and go look for some self-respect.

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Respect.

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