I don't go out clubbing much but I'm starting to have a lot of free time and I've decided it's finally the right time to work on my club game so I intend on going out a lot this summer.

These may seem like stupid questions, but from my standpoint they are major sticking points for me so I appreciate any genuine advice anyone gives me.

I am a very good individual dancer so I shouldn't have any problem getting women to want to dance with me, but I've only danced with women on two occassions and they weren't very long because I panicked and ran off. This being said, I am somewhat insecure about dancing with women because I feel they expect me to know how to treat them on the dancefloor since I am a very good solo dancer. I oftentimes ignore them when they give me strong IOIs because I am afraid of them finding out I am a sucky dancer with women.

So I'm wondering....

--where do you guys touch a girl when you dance with her?(other than the hips...would it be okay to touch the sides of her ass when controlling the grinding motion?)
--If I wanted to make out with a girl on the dance floor that I just met how would I go about it? Where would I touch her to start and how would I escalate the touching to kissing etc.
--Since I am a very good dancer and I can always tell girls get really horny and attracted to me when I dance around them, is there anything I should be doing to quicken the escalation that normal guys can't do?

Thanks for the responses!

When I dance with a girl I don't touch her anywhere but her hips (anywhere else to quickly can come off perverted), if shes into me and trying to look at me in my eyes while were dancing than that's the signal she wants to escalate things. If your a good dancer just be patient she'll give you the signal within 1-3 minutes than you take things further with touching and making out.

Very good advice thank you! I will use this next time I dance with a girl

--where do you guys touch a girl when you dance with her?(other than the hips...would it be okay to touch the sides of her ass when controlling the grinding motion?)

usually first hips, then about 30sec to 1 min into dance i turn her around and make her grind me holding 1 hand on stomach around her and the other around. pull her deep into u.

--If I wanted to make out with a girl on the dance floor that I just met how would I go about it? Where would I touch her to start and how would I escalate the touching to kissing etc.

eye contact ... i dno how to explain u will understand when u get in the situation, u can read the signals

--Since I am a very good dancer and I can always tell girls get really horny and attracted to me when I dance around them, is there anything I should be doing to quicken the escalation that normal guys can't do?

what u mean good dancer? wtf is a good dancer on the dancefloor? wtf is dancing?

First off it doesn't matter if you can't dance or not ... it matters if you can let go of your self image (care of what people think) and just enjoy and let the effect of the club take over you. Be like the sponge and absorb the vibe of the music and the club.

For example,
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fW8amMCVAJQ

I always ask girls what do you think of guys lurking/orbiting around you when you are on the dance floor? They always reply ... I don't even notice them. Girls are their to have fun ... therefore if they see a guy who is just enjoying dancing and not caring of what others thinking ... comfortable everyone watching him (amplifies your pimpness) ... she will gravitate towards him. Generate the fun vibe first ... then approach the girl .... But, you seem to do this already, excluding the approaching part :p.

The problem most guys do after they open the girl is that they lose the mind set of having fun ... and the girl will think, "Oh he was just faking it" ... The trick is to continue to pump yourself with the music while you are dancing with the girl. So your priority are 1) Pump yourself with the music 2) Dancing with girl. IMPORTANT: The girl does not care if you can dance or not ... she only cares if you are self amusing yourself without caring what others are thinking (aka: let go of your self image) ...

There are multiple ways to dance with a girl.
1) You can do the regular prom dance method of your left hand holding her right hand while your right hand on her hip and her left hand over your shoulder.
- I always say for my entertainment ... "If this was prom and I asked you to go. Would you say yes?" ... then I follow up with, "This is no normal junior high Prom ... This is the GED Prom where people go to fuck." (GED is where peeps who didn't finish high school and decided to continue to finish and get their diploma :p.) ..... hahaha again for my entertainment ... I don't give a fuck what she thinks ...
2) Place both her hands over your shoulders, hugging you around your neck, and both of your hands on her hips (hugging her). Don't ask permission when you grab her hand ... just do it like it isn't a big deal because it isn't a big deal :p.
3) Bachata mode ... have one of your thighs inbetween her legs ... grind that leg on her crotch (aka move your hips to the music)

The best technique I know to go for the make out is to rock in and out, get close to her face while making eye contact ... then sway back. You can get close to her to speak to hear ... then sway back. Sway in and out with the music or sway in and out to go speak/whisper in her ear. Don't forget to make intense eye contact! This will build the tension ... Their are signs of when she wants to kiss ... but it's best to just go for it even though she is not ready ... you going for the kiss ... and if she refuses ... just laugh it off (show it isn't a big deal!)and continue the interaction ... then try again in 2 to 5 minutes (repeat this until you kiss)... This also builds tension ... realize after trying to go for the kiss the girl did not run away because you didn't make a big deal out of it :p ... therefore don't over react like a pussy if she refuses. Just consider that she is not ready to kiss yet.
- For my entertainment ... If the girl refuses I follow up with, "I thought you wanted to kiss. Laugh it off" ...
- Side note ... again for my entertainment ... I go hug the girl and grab her side boob ... the girl freaks ... say "I thought you wanted me to grab your side boob ... laugh out loud."
- Side note .... say: "Hey you guys want to go home with me" ... girls refuse ... "Oh ... I thought you guys wanted to go home with me ... laugh out loud"...

Summary ... don't make anything a big deal ... Prioritize 1) Your self amusement 2) Girl's company ...
Have this mind set and you can do whatever you want. Notice everything is for my entertainment and the girl is just their to join MY party :p....

Your problem is you care to much of what the girl(s) think ... stop it :p

Wow thank you so much for both of your guys advice this was more than I could ever hope for.
Noted! I didn't even think of doing this but I'll definitely do this next time I'm out.
Ever watch a video called "Pumped Up Kicks Dubstep?" If not go watch it it's got almost 90 million YouTube views now. He does what is called animation dance, which encompasses a variety of different moves and styles. I'm obviously not as good as him but whenever I dance people tend to like it.
True true! I also have trouble with this self image thing even though I know I am a good dancer and random people have told me countless times. I think for the very first step I need to feel comfortable dancing when no one else is on the dancefloor or it is almost empty because this is also another problem for me. Thanks for the video that was really informative and insightful.
Yeah I've seen this countless times too: a guy that doesn't know how to dance but he's having fun and he dances with a bunch of girls because they like his attitude and positive vibes.
Yeah this happened to me too on the few occassions I have danced with a girl. My mind started thinking "oh my god I'm dancing with a girl what do I do next" rather than just enjoy the moment and continue to have fun. Thanks for this it's something I really need to internalize.
I really like techniques 2 and 3 I'm gonna have to remember these.
I agree; I need to stop caring and start reframing. Thank you so much I really appreciate the detail you put in your post to explain things. I like the sway in sway out technique while giving massive eye contact I'll have to try this out as well.

My tips:

Make touches that sync with music. Mostly its the outer thigh, hips, hands at the beginning. Make it sensual while getting eye contact. If you want the interaction to get intence you can grab her ass or tits but not for more than a second, just let your hand move in the area, you will get a hint if wants to pull your arm away but if your smoth she will not be quick enough as the arm is just passing by.

If I get good eye contact I gently grab her by the neck if the vibe is sensual and give a quick kiss or a tease. If it is a realy sexual vibe i grab her by her hair or pull her towards me.
If I dont get good eye contact I slowly move my head towards her nad gently raise her chin with my finger.

Solid stuff I like it! I know I've gotten a ton of good advice to follow already but I always appreciate any extra tips I can get. This is probably the only game I'm going to be running in the next year or so(at least that's how I foresee it now with current circumstances) so I'm going to try and get really good at this. Thanks again everyone