This girl I'm involved with text and call everyday.

It used to be so sexual in the beginning. Then it fizzled to more just "fun" or "adventure" with less sexual overtones.




What Happened:

- She was telling me about other guys she sees (ew) so I thought this was leading to the friendzone.

- I told her maybe we should cut it down talking to like once a week. And whenever she'd talk about other guys I'd shrug it off, yawn and say "ahh this is boring."

- Well tonight she did it again and she said "Wait you find me boring?" I mentioned yeah and how it's becoming like a routine, the same spark isnt there.

- She told me before.../ she likes to do fake cries and that she can make it sound like shes crying. She started crying for real when I said she's boring. But I thought she was joking so I kept going.




She cries and for the first time hangs up on... me. Like a typical chump, of course I apologized hard. She said that I should call her only when I really want to and that she'll stop bugging me, "maybe in a week." I said a lot of lovey dovey things which got her to respond back.

After a while I realized I was giving up WAY too much power and ended it, when she responded back positively. I gave her some reasons why I would even say something mean like that.


..... Though Im so worried. That Ill lose her. I mean sure she might call me back first the next day, but cant this leave lasting marks? Im not sure if I should wait the full week like she said, show more warmth, etc etc

I don't understand do you want a relationship with this chick or are you just friends with benefits? Either way don't let that crying bullshit bother you almost all chicks can turn it on and off at will. You also need to game other girls she tells you she's messing with other guys but I really doubt your talking to other girls if you took the time to write this out.

Well of course I wrote all that, the wound was still fresh when I made the post. I'm still gaming other girls, but my success is the highest with this chick. Also, I'm not used to girls crying over something I said.

I think most of it was from the misinterpretation that she thinks I called her boring. I meant the interaction gets boring when we just talk about other people and the magic isn't the same. I wasnt calling her boring. But the tears flowed from there, and the illogic emotional followed.



1) Maybe if I remind her that I wasn't calling her boring, that when we just talk about other people it just gets disinteresting, and that she has fake cried on the phone before as a joke maybe she wont be so sad/mad over it?

2) Should I be the first to contact or wait for her to call?

Feel pretty torn up over it

You messed up when you brought up her talking is 'boring'. You didn't just call her topic boring, you basically said you don't like what she's investing in your conversation. You just don't do that in any social interaction, so also not in gaming girls. Besides it being both a conversation and initiative killer (she'll think twice about investing in the conversation next time), it's just not a good way to handle a boring conversation. Better ways to deal with it is just to start talking about something more interesting. Not just with girls, with anyone.

Anyway, I would leave this girl alone for the next week or so to cool off, then pick up conversation. Following her like a puppy now will ruin more.

Guy's task is to make a boring convo interesting. That's a massive DHV.

She just texted me some stuff about how she really just likes me. Leading up to this, I've been cold lately, trying not to show too much interest. I think I gotta be warm now and not wait a week.

I mean she texted me, and I oftne dont get back to her right away. Should I be direct and tell her there was a lot of misinterpretation. How I thought she wasnt interested in me anymore. And that this thing is too good for words. That she'll never know how much she's already changed my life.

I feel like after all that, if she's texting me first I shouldnt go cold for a week.

she seems like an annoying attention whore. i mean, shes telling you about the other guys shes seeing, cutting off sex, and starting huge drama and crying over a stupid comment. WHY ARE YOU PUTTING UP WITH THIS? wtf is wrong with you???

stop being a pussy. stop letting her walk all over you. stop apologizing for the things you say. stop trying to get her back. JUST STOP. right now. focus on other girls and ignore her. drop the scarcity mindset. if she gets back to you and wants to hang out again (FOR SEX) then fine. otherwise dont put up with this shit anymore. theres plenty of girls out there who want to fuck you and wont be playing all kinds of games. find one of them.

Well I dont think she was doing it to get me jealous. It really does slip in her conversation. Maybe because I tell her, well I dont tell you about all the girls that I .. talk to.

Im gunna see if she wants to meet up in that way. If not, well its becoming too much of a headtrip.