I have been working on this girl named steph from work and things seem to be going well...negs, routines, DHV's etc... last night I told her i'm shopping for my cousins birthday gift and I am bad at picking gifts for girls...she said that sounded like fun and gave me her number. We made plans to go on thursday but today I found out she has a boyfriend and that he works at the same place as us...I wouldn't say im friends with him but he's a nice guy and I think they have been going out for a month or 2. What should I do and why? Any help is appreciated. Thanks

Not to sound like an asshole but a month or 2 is hardly anything. Game her up, comfort her, a shoulder to cry on becomes a dick to ride on. Dont talk or mention the boyfriend, just try to get to know her.

There's plenty of single girls out here man, I'm not telling you to not talk to her keep in contact with her and wait for the inevitable break up, than make your move. If the guy has any sort of spine and if he finds out your going at his gf it could get rough at your work.

Minin's advice is terrible.

You want to reward tears with dick?

Does that sound like a healthy dynamic to you?

Where you went wrong was the part where "I've been working on this girl for a while."

Stop doing that. Just stop it.

Let them chase YOU.

Pursuing is not becoming of a Man.

Once you do that, they'll hide their boyfriends from you, or perhaps mention it just to see if you care.

So don't care, it doesn't matter. In the Secret Society, your relationship with her exists outside of any socially-recognized relationships that either or both of you may be in at the time.

_________________
For my unfiltered rants on Game and Gender Dynamics, check out "The Mask And Rose:"
http://themaskandrose.wordpress.com

Thanks for all the advice guys...the only post I wasn't clear on was: "Let them chase YOU. Pursuing is not becoming of a Man. Once you do that, they'll hide their boyfriends from you, or perhaps mention it just to see if you care."

They will hide their boyfriends or mention him to see if I care, once i pursue them? or once i let them chase me? Could you explain that for me as well as some tips on how to get them to chase you?

Thanks again. Appreciated.