Recently, the girl I'm "talking to" (meaning nothing official) have agreed to move in together for numerous reasons. She broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years at the beginning of the year, so things are moving slowly. She is the type if girl that is aggressive and fears not being in control. Here's the thing: this kind of girl will fàll head over heels if her partner is one that WILL take control in a secure, non threatening way. I'm only having trouble with this because she doesn't like exactly HOW aggressive I can be when conflict arises and Im not sure how to be any other way.

Note: We see each other daily and even work together.

What are the best tips of regaining control with a woman that is aggressive, has attitude, self sufficient on the exterior, while being gentle and insecure on the inside?