| Important thing here is to define what it is you want from her. If you want to get your rocks off then STFU and be cool (act like nothing happened, don't act pouty by avoidance tactics/passive aggressive behavior etc.).
The thing is you two aren't in a relationship, from what I can tell so she's entitled to chill with as many guys as she likes (the same behavior males are commended for, women are denigrated as "sluts" and "whores"). In your case, you're either bothered by the thought of another guy dipping his junk in her privates (the same fox hole you've been going to which you seem to believe you should have sole access to), and/or that you want something more with her (e.g. A relationships...YIKES!!! THERE, I SAID IT!!). Figure out which it is. Remember, your reactions to a situation will depend on however you choose to frame it (the antecedent).
If you solely want to bang her then its not in your place to say anything negative to her, just strap on a condom and hit that sh*t. If, on the other hand you want more then perhaps you need to take more of a relationship frame to the situation and again, not REACT. You have no right to call her out either way as you aren't in a committed relationship so she's not really doing anything wrong per se. That said, if she's breached your own values in some way then perhaps she's not the right girl for you. Again, there's absolutely no reason to react. Should you choose to continue the course with her, learn how to deal with these feelings and emotions (diffuse them/process through them by talking to friends, going for walks, etc.. but be sure not to let them consume you by thinking about them all of the time).
Remember, square peg, square hole.
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