I've been lurking on these boards for a month or so now, and from what I can gather, the general consensus is that confidence is the paramount trait that would likely to induce attraction. This trumps looks, style and money.

But I have tried this approach, breaking out from my usual routine of being a silent introvert and actually approaching girls in a social setting. But in retrospect, I look back and see myself coming off over-agressive in some instances, and a talkative loon in other instances.

Dear veterans of the community, how do you find your middle ground, your sweet spot between caution, calm and confidence?

By doing what you are already doing.
And then changing it.

Go make a Field Report in the proper section; go post all your new interactions and re read em after some time.

Notice changes, notice your new take on things.

There is no common middle ground for us all, you are at one stage of pick up; I`m at a very different one. It`s how things are, all you can do is adapt.