So I hooked up with this sexy 18 year old girl who had a boyfriend studying at uni a couple of months ago through facebook. She added me and I progressed it to sex chat and we hooked up a few times. I unfortunately esculated my text messeging and the last message I got from her was leave me alone. To that I replied something along the lines of I'm sorry about everything. This wasnt how i wanted it to be. I only was spiteful because that was all I was getting from you. Keep the 30 you owe me. You need it more than me. Ill leave you alone. Just msg when you want xx. Obviously she ain't gonna message me and that was now 2 weeks ago. I might add that previous to this I had been using magnetic messeging. Over played the emotional messages and she had already told me via message to move on. Even saw her in town and she basically made a quick exit. That was maybe a month ago now. I dont believe it is finished forever. Her basic argument was I am immature and too needy. How the hell do I get her back. I have resisted all contact for two weeks. I need a plan of action!

Your plan of action should be moving on. Your text came off as ridiculously needy, and she's long gone.
And finally, remember these words of wisdom: If she cheats with you, she'll cheat on you.

What even after a couple of months? They must be something. Don't really wanna go down to the voodoo route!

A couple months can mean nothing to a person that's not emotionally invested in a relationship.
As for the voodoo, there is none. Its not karma, its simply a personality trait. If a girl cheats on one boyfriend, what makes you think she won't cheat on you?

Amazing how you proved her point with the very next sentence.

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The way i saw it, evidently they are personality traits that in unison facilitate this kind of behavior (cheating), but as i have come to realize more often than not, it's just the 'correct' alignment of a group of circumstances that allows this to happen.
Besides, i could also argument. Is a girl that never cheat more likely to stay that way?
Perhaps, but then again. A cheater wasn't born a cheater, and what makes the 'label' it's her reoccurring acts. People are so instable and unreliable in their actions because they are emotionally driven, especially women. Even the act himself is so relatively justified, for example. I have heard that kissing another person is not cheating, have casual sex is not cheating, and more...

Now, i didn't realize the OP was angling to have a strict monogamous relationship with her, the way i understood it, he is only looking for a way to get her muffing back (this alone defeats the purpose of your point).
To whish i must say, after what you describe in here, it seams very, very, unlikely that you will taste it again any time soon.

cncapes we're both in a similar situation, except I know how dire the situation is. We won't get the girl back, at least not any time soon, that's for sure. Months, years or never brother. Probably never.

She got the validation that she needed and wasn't getting from her boyfriend. Learn how to make yourself scarce to build mystery. Work on improving your sexual performance. Keep all relationships with women sexual and non-committal until they suggest an exclusive relationship.

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18 year old girls are a dime a dozen... Go get another one if that is your poison.

Why the fuck would you escalate sexually through a text? You can't have sex with her through a text message... So don't talk about it through text. Make sex seem like a normal part of a relationship... Not like you are some perv who can't control his hormones and just want's sex all the time. She probably felt used.

I never talk about sex until after I've been with a girl several times, and it seems to work magic when done right. I think avoiding the subject or making it seem menial with a girl you're dating is a bad idea. My gfs always loved when I escalated sexually over text while we were apart.

If you can use sexual communication through a text messages and the girl is receptive of it then why not use it. What would be more productive? Talking about what she ate for lunch or about how she craves your dick? I wonder...

I don't want to turn this into a texting debate so i'll start off by saying, OP you should just move on. There are women that matter and women that don't. she is the latter of the two, she clearly has no class for hooking up with you while she was in a relationship so just move on.

As far as texting goes tho, i feel as though doing things in person is SIGNIFICANTLY better for a few reasons.

1. It is a much more natural experience.
2. You can have a much better gage on her reactions towards your advances.
3. She can't suck your dick through a phone. or facebook...

On the other hand, i'm not going to dismiss texting overall, because it can in fact be helpful in certain situations. One of them for me is that i am real busy during the week with uni shit. So if i'm only seeing a girl on the weekends, its important to not let the relationship run cold by not talking to her for 5 days.

That for me is the only acceptable time for texting, and i would still recommend finding time to go talk to/fuck the chick during the week, instead of just texting her.

As others have said, move on.

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