A girl that seemed to be very interested and passionate about me pulled a complete 180. She even admitted it using the actual term 180. I’ll do my best to keep the story brief but could use some advice if anything just to understand what the hell happened.

Pre story disclaimers-
*I am very prone to oneitis but I’m working on it an a hell of a lot better than I used to be in part thanks to this forum!
*I’m also a decent looking guy who has a pretty easy time talking to woman and previously little trouble landing a girl I’m after. Except this one!

The girl in question (Elena) and I actually went to high school together back in Mass. We went out on a few dates my senior year, hooked up a couple times at which point she said we should take a break because it was getting too serious. Me being a high school guy with a constant boner said “sure” and went after other girls eventually finding myself in a relationship with another girl that lasted through freshman year of college. Over the next few years Elena and I would see each other and each time the chemistry was pretty fantastic. I had to use very little game and we usually would hook up, go off into the world for a year, meet back up and hook up. Every time we say each other something would happen physically and usually the conversation was natural and exciting.

Flash forward a few years and both of us ended up moving to San Francisco. We met up a couple times but nothing happened since we both were in relationships but the last time we met up at a bar it was fucking fire works and frankly I have never been so sure I was in there. Over the years we had only acquired more interests that seemed to make us interested in each other. We both ended up staying till about midnight blowing off calls from our respective significant others but nothing happened because cheating is shitty. Sometimes.

Flash forward about another year and she broke up with her boyfriend. A break up so bad she moved back to Boston to be closer to home and start fresh. We had kept in contact with flirty emails and since I was single and going to be home for the Holidays we made plans to meet up for New Years. We ended up reconnecting and spending the next few days together just talking, eating and having amazing sex. Might as well mention at this point the girl is model good looking but seems to be insecure or unaware of this fact. I left to go back to San Fran and thought that was that but over the next month we ended up talking every day, flirting, joking, sexting and finally I couldn’t take it anymore and booked a ticket to come out and visit her for a three day weekend.

The first two days were pretty much just a blur of sex, dinners and drinks. By the third evening she seemed to be getting anxiety and admitted she isn’t used to spending this much time with anyone and frankly was blown away that we had kept in contact because usually she tends to freak out and run away when it seems like things are getting serious with a guy (remember what happened in high school?) but I just played it off and said you cant fight chemistry. The fact that I lived 3000 miles away probably made it a bit more mellow. So I flew home and after about we week we were back to the flirty talk just about every day. It got to the point where she was talking about coming out to visit me saying things like “So, I’m definitely coming out to see you” and discussing plans that usually just turned into sexting. At this point I figured all is well and asked what date she was thinking so I could book a hotel in wine country.

Silence. For days.

I end up eventually hearing from her but it was like a robot version of Elena and worst of all she is now saying she probably cant fly over.

Eventually I wrote an email asking what was up and got a text back saying she got my email and that she thinks we are different pages, this always happens when things start getting serious and maybe we can still be friends. “No fucking way” I thought so I call her up and find her in tears. I am able to calm her down and we talk for about an hour and she seemed stunned I even want to still talk to her. I guess this usually scares dudes off but I really liked this girl, things were going phenomenally up to that point so why would I let it go?

We chatted here and there after for about a month but it wasn’t really the same. So here is the game changer. I got a call from a headhunter who offered me a job at a firm in Boston (a offer I could never refuse because it was twice what I was making in San Fran). I took the job and sent her an email saying I had a meeting that night but wanted to talk to her because I had some big news. When I finally broke the news we would be living in the same city she started laughing and seemed cool with it but mentioned she was really focused on work and had sworn of dating (which is interesting considering in a previous conversation she mentioned how she really didn’t love her job and just wanted to be a mom). I laughed it off and said I had sworn off women so it’s no problem. She then said since I have this fancy new job I could take her out to dinner. Cool with me.

A couple weeks later I pack up and move over here. I spend a couple days here meeting up with old friends but decided not to call her and see if she would make the first move. Sure enough on the third day I get a text asking how I am and how was the move. We text back and forth and I ask what night and I taking her out. She replies to something else and doesn’t acknowledge me asking her out. Finally after a few more texts I say something along the lines of “let’s meet up for some sake and sushi tonight” and she says that she can’t meet up tonight because her friend is leaving town. That’s it. Nothing about another day to meet up. I replied “gotcha”.

And that’s where I am fellas. I went from having a gorgeous girl giving me sparkling conversation and jumping my bones every few hours (when we were together) and consistent sexting to whatever the hell this is. Advice on what to do from here? Is she just shittesting me? Despite her weird 180 move I really like this girl but should I walk away? And where did the 180 come from? Any advice would be appreciated.

Don't walk away yet. Pull back immediately though. Stop texting her first. Stop supplicating and trying to appease her. Stand your ground and don't act like its bothering you. Stay distant and disinterested until she warms up to you. If it doesn't work, find another girl, and then leave.
Good luck mate.

THIS but you should be gaming other girls anyways, if your going to put everything on one girl your probably going to get burned. Have more options.